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FIl vent
My FIL is a complete a$$. I've said this for as many years as I've known him. DH struggles to try to have a relationship with that man and all he ever does is criticize, bittch at and complain about DH. He expects DH to do everything that he wants at the drop of a hat.
Sunday mid morning DH went over to help FIL do some stuff (bag corn to take down to camp for the deer), apparently FIL wanted DH to then take the corn to camp (would take about 1.5-2 hours round trip), DH did not want to go, he told FIL we were going to my sister's. Well, ILs came over to see Levi later that afternoon and FIL jumped all over DH because we hadn't gone to my sister's yet and that he could have taken the corn to camp. Nevermind the fact that Levi spent the night at their house Friday and then MIL watched him for me most of Saturday, so we enjoyed just being home and playing Sunday. FIL then asked me if I wanted a picnic table they had at their house, I said sure. Not knowing the he already asked DH earlier in the day and DH said no because it was half rotten.
Well, yesterday after work, DH went over to get the picnic table. He called me again and asked if I wanted "the piece of rotten crap", I said if you don't want it then no I don't. He walked in the house and told FIL that we didn't want the picnic table. FIL then proceeded to yell at DH, told him to take his ladder and get out. So DH grabbed his ladder that his father borrowed and came home. He then bit my head off about something stupid, I asked, sarcastically, what I did to make him mad at me, and he said "I"m not mad a you I'm mad at him".....
He was a major grump all evening. We were going to bed, and he kissed me and said he was sorry. I asked him what had happened. He told me about his father telling him to get out and then he said that his father left him a voice mail saying that if we don't get a mortgage for the house in our names then he's going to put it on the market. (ILs bought our house so it is in their names. But we pay the house payment and taxes.)
Re: FIl vent
I've said that before. I'm to the point where I'd like to tell him off! He's just an a$$. He wants DH to do everything and anything for him, but can never come over and help DH when needed.
I think part of his problem is the fact that DH is starting to get more of a "father-son" relationship with an older guy at the church and firehouse. This guy, Spike, is always asking DH if he wants to help him do this, or if DH needs help getting wood, he always stops in to see us if he is driving past our house. When his son comes in from OOT, he asks us to go out for breakfast with them. If DH's off and it's lunch time, Spike calls to see what they are having for lunch.
I've already made the comment that him and his wife are taking the Granparent place for Levi that my parents can't fill...
FIL doesn't put any effort into his relationship with DH, and DH is tired of trying.
Emily I'm really sorry that this is happening, I'd be looking to get the mortgage in your name or finding a new place to live.
If they want to sell the house fine, it isn't the best time to do it. I know that might screw them over but I guess you have to decide whether you are going to let them hold that over your head or whether you guys find a place (in a great market) that you guys will have your name on.
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