baby shower invite lists are hard...

ashleemw · March 2011

My sister wants my list, and I'm having a really hard time with this. It's going to be in Cincinnati, and I still have tons of HS friends there that I see periodically, and I'd love for them to come, but I don't want to seem gift-grabby since I see them 2x a year, maybe. IDK what to do... any advice?? I'm including friends who have gotten married and invited me to their shower/wedding, but most haven't so it's tricky. I even have some friends who I know are saving hardcore for whatever, and I want to tell them please come and don't worry about a gift, but I know that's weird too.

Hate. This.

jacmdb · March 2011

I would invite the friends you see when you visit. Since you don't live there I wouldn't think inviting someone you saw twice a year would seem gift grabby.

Madisen · March 2011

We had a huge baby shower back in Cali. It was a big party with women, men and kids all invited. I think everyone just appreciated being able to spend some time together...I know DH and I did. If that seemed gift-grabby to some, no one mentioned it to our faces.

But really, they were all our good friends anyway.

ashleemw · March 2011

Madisen:
We had a huge baby shower back in Cali. It was a big party with women, men and kids all invited. I think everyone just appreciated being able to spend some time together...I know DH and I did. If that seemed gift-grabby to some, no one mentioned it to our faces. But really, they were all our good friends anyway.

That's what DH's parents are doing down here, just a big party with everyone in the family and their friends.

In Ohio, my sister is hosting a women's shower, and my dad is arranging a golf outing for the guys during my shower. My mom was thinking of having a big BBQ that day since it will be Memorial Day weekend, so would it be weird if I invited my friends to the BBQ and not the shower? Or invite them to both?

luckyinlove11902 · March 2011

I've been to showers for people I don't see often but that I've known for a bit, and then ones for people I haven't known very long and I've never viewed them as gift-grabby. I usually assume that they considered that I should be invited and wanted to make sure I didn't feel left out, but I guess I'm assuming the best in people. I usually lean toward over-inviting rather than under-inviting in general.

ashleemw · March 2011

I'm just trying to think okay, if they were having a shower, would I expect to be invited? So that seems like a good rule to go by I think?

brittjoy84 · March 2011

The rule I used for my wedding invites was they get an invite if I would feel comfortable having them over for dinner. I think that might be a good rule for a shower too.

LXLX · March 2011

brittjoy84:
The rule I used for my wedding invites was they get an invite if I would feel comfortable having them over for dinner. I think that might be a good rule for a shower too.

This seems like a great rule of thumb.

Kristin&Adam · March 2011

brittjoy84:
The rule I used for my wedding invites was they get an invite if I would feel comfortable having them over for dinner. I think that might be a good rule for a shower too.

Oh, I really like that idea.

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