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Relationship - Career Goal: The Balancing Act?
Does anyone struggle with spending time with their spouse while getting in the required study time for a certification exam, school, or anything that requires quiet alone time OFTEN?
I feel so guilty running off almost all day Saturday and Sunday to study for my CPA exams, and this is only the first of four parts. According to my plan, I won't be done studying until August... that is a long time to deal with my husband feeling abandoned. He understands and wants this for me just as much I do, but we've got to find a way to balance our life while making sure I am prepared for these exams!!
Any advice would be GREATLY appreciated...
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Re: Relationship - Career Goal: The Balancing Act?
DH had a particularly busy 10 month time period at work, where he was doing 13- to 14-hour days. I knew it was a finite time period, and was just incredibly supportive during that time. He felt guilty enough when he left at 7:30 every morning and came home at 10:30, just to go to bed and do it all over again.
It's not like he was hitting the bars every night. He was working.
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I agree with Dr. Loretta. It's a definite period of time. Persumabely you'll be done in august right? get a your CPA degree and get a good job so in the end it's good for both of you. Your DH seems understanding of this.
I used to study for extensive period of time, I'd go in my room where it was quiet and study for hours when I was in college. My BF at the time who was taking the same classes, would study for 2 hours and be done. So it depends on your study habits?
I am currently taking a series of evening classes. I used to work full time up until last month thus the evening classes. So I'd go to work 6 to 2-3 then study, and go to class at night til 9 by the time I got home it was 10. I spent most of my weekends studying/doing homework, but unlike my college years it's no longer obsessive where I'd hide for hours and study. I study for say 2 hours, watch some tv, do something else, then study again. You know? balance it out.
Maybe you can set aside an hour or so and hang out with your DH each night?
But really marraige is all about compromises and I wouldn't feel bad about it.
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It may not sound too fun but maybe he could help you study. Have him quiz you and ask you questions that you will have on the exams. It kills 2 birds with 1 stone since your spending time as a couple and studying.
I can relate...but remember to study hard and then give yourself a break.
If you have the time try studying 2 days during the week so you can always take Sunday off.
August will be here in no time...hang in there hubby knows its for good and not forever
It took me 17 months of studying and taking tests to pass the CPA exam. For the last year of it, I was studying ~30 hours a week on top of my full time job (which was 50ish hours a week), including the entire weekend, from 9AM - 7 or 8PM Sat and Sun. It sucked, but he just had to deal with it. The idea of having him help you study may work...I couldn't do it. I'd have him go over flashcards with me (wich I made myself, FYI...I found it much easier to remember things when I was writing them down repeatedly) but if he didn't understand something, he'd ask me more about it for his own knowledge...I like that he's interested in my career, but at that moment, I didn't care that much about all the in-depth info!
Good luck! I still maintain that the CPA exam was the hardest, nastiest thing I've ever put myself through.
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I sat for the CPA exam a few years ago, after we were married. My husband was incredibly supportive of this, because he knew that the license is a big benefit to my career.
I studied and took the exam over a 6 month period. I had the Becker class all day Saturdays. I studied from the time I got home from work each night until about 10pm, took the class on Saturdays (or, alternatively studied 8am - 5pm) and studied Sunday (8am - 5pm). I never studied on a Friday night, that was always my time with my husband. .
While I was busy studying, my husband would catch up on things around the house or spend time with friends and family. I also had a dedicated space to study that was not in the main living area, which helped me to concentrate and get done what I needed. My only goal was to study once and pass the first time so I never had to study againi, and thankfully I was able to pass all 4 parts on the first try.
It sucked missing out on some things, but I had a goal I was working towards. My suggestion is come up with a schedule that works for you and your husband, stick to it and enjoy the time you do have together.
I totally agree with this suggestion. I did the same thing and it helped me immensely. My study time was most effective when I could just go to a quiet area and work through problems and concepts.
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