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For those that have been PG or are currently...
Were you nervous about "dropping the bomb"....
I know it's one of my biggest fears to have to go in and tell my (future) boss that I'm PG and will be needing time off.
I hate those nerves.
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Re: For those that have been PG or are currently...
I just told my boss a week or two ago.
I had been taking off for appointments and felt bad that I kept asking for time off without an explanation. I know it is not necessary for medical, but I really like my boss and wanted him to know.
So I sat down with him and explained that I had been taking time off and I will need to continue to do so. I said it was still really early, but I wanted him to know why and what was going on. He was thrilled and thanked me for telling him and said that whatever I needed to do was absolutely no problem.
It was funny, I hadn't been nervous to tell him, or so I thought, but once he knew I felt a huge relief.
I'm not pregnant and not planning on being pregnant in at least the next year. But, at my current employer I would not be nervous at all. The environment in my office is so supportive that I know everyone would be really excited for us. I work for a place that truly understands the importance of a good work-life balance.
The worst part would be that we currently get no paid maternity leave. So, I'd probably try to work out a work from home policy so I wouldn't have to use all my saved paid time off. That might be nerve wracking, but with my current management probably wouldn't be an issue for at least a few weeks.
This does worry me about potentially finding a new job, though. So, I'm really hoping to get a promotion here when I graduate so I can stay.
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um yeah, I did especially since I was telling him I'd be done completely at the end of the year.
Luckily we had already discussed that at some point in the future I would be SAH so at least he was aware
I'm not nervous about telling my boss, but she's going to know what's up when I start leaving for appointments. I never go the doctor and I try to go appointments on days I have off.
I'm nervous about telling my mom, I know she will be thrilled but she has a huge mouth so when I tell her I have to be prepared to tell everyone. I think work will know before she does and I feel bad about that. I know we'll end up letting the cat out of the bag before we plan to but oh well.
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ditto Jo. Where I work now and the team I'm on, I wouldn't be nervous at all - they'd be so excited for me (and I think a bunch of them are already wondering when I'm having kids anyway).
I also am confident about their willingness to work with me for any work-from-home type plan I may want to do.
Chris had to tell her job around 8 weeks between the zillion appointments and that she was kind of sick. She works in a good old boys shop but they've been really supportive. She'll probably take 8-12 weeks leave (whatever it turns out we can afford when the time comes; her benefits are still sort of fuzzy) and then work from home once a week until the new year when they'll go to day care. Its unrealistic to think she can work from home and care for one infant, much less two, and do actual work though. She'll also probably start working from home a couple of days a week in the summer, depending on how long the doc keeps her working (lots of variables there).
I have no qualms about telling my current job I'm pregnant, given that I'll have been here for a couple of years by then. My only concern is I won't have enough leave to be paid for even half of FMLA, and we don't get any paid time.
Everything in here, save the "work-life" balance, which looking at our vacay policy and my boss' unwillingness to let me leave an hour or 2 early when we drive back to KS 3x a year makes it obvious they are old school. And the "promotion" part (What, growth? Nahhhhh) are pretty much where I'm at.
I know work would be excited, mostly bc my CWs have been asking about when we're having kids since the wedding, but their general policy is 6 weeks unpaid, you can use vacation (all 10 days of it) and saved up sick days (this is a nice perk). I'd have to apply to the board of directors for longer leave, but since by that time I'd have been working here over 4 years, almost 5, I don't think it will be an issue to get 90 days.
We aren't an FMLA workplace bc we're too small, and our HR lady has a huge mouth, so I won't ask her how STD works here. The only girl that's gone on maternity leave (she applied for and got 90 days) and had not even been here a year, so she didn't get everything they offer for longer-term employess.
My big issue is that I'd really like to get a new job before getting pg if we're staying in CO. So either get pg ASAP and utilize what I have, or wait until after I find a new job. Which thus far has not been going well.
I worked in a lab and had to tell both bosses and all coworkers immediately because there were some chemicals that I couldn't handle and had to get some people to do things for me.
However, my fellowship was over exactly halfway through the pregnancy, so the issue wasn't leaving, it was just what I could do at work.
One boss was crazy excited, and the other didn't understand why it meant I couldn't do things and wasn't feeling well. Oh well.
I then worked FT teaching the spring semester, but it didn't affect anything since I was a contract employee term to term (meaning no maternity leave) and I went back PT when P was about 7 weeks old. They were all thrilled, as some of them had been my profs when I was in college and they tend to get excited about things like that (everyone has kids and most people with advanced degrees in bio who teach at smaller schools do so because it offers flexibility for family life).
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Not to my boss... I knew I was giving tons of notice and we are a flexible group of people. She's mostly freaking out now because another person is taking 2-3 months for a surgery in May so we thankfully will get a per diem for the whole 6 or so months.
My boss' response was "Are you happy about this?... what?! I don't know these things!". She isn't married and has no kids and is rather different... I love her but she's a nut.
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