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Re: QOTD
I've paid my own way since I was 18 when I moved out of my Mom's house, I own my own car (no car payment), I pay all the bills, I have a full time job, we don't own a home we just rent but we still have to take care of our home...and yet I still don't feel like an adult.
Anyone else relate?
Married / The Cookaholic Wife
I do not feel like an adult at all even though as PP I went to college, have a job, pay bills, ect.
glad to know im not the only one who still feels like a kid!
I've felt like a grown up since I was about 16. I think having unsupportive parents will do that to you. I think it especially hit me when I was in my sophomore year of college and my mother stopped the automatic transfer to pay my rent because she wanted to use my loan money as spending money on a vacation. I also got really sick that week and had to be hopsitalized. I ended up borrowing money from my friend (who is now my H!) to pay for rent and the hospital copay. When my parents got back from their vacay, my dad found out what my mother did and put all the money back (and almost divorced her for the third time) and I changed all my accounts so that my parents were no longer connected in anyway.
I think it's the knowing for sure that you don't have someone to reliably fall back on that makes you grow up. I really miss being a kid.
The Princess of Anything is Coming!
Had a dream I was queen.
Woke up. Still queen.
Yeah I do.
I have always been the responsible one growing up. My dad was always working to try and support us. My mother was off doing her own thing. I would stay at home and take care of my brother when we were kids.
Then when I was 18 my mother was incarcerated for several years. I had to drop out of high school to get a job and be the "mother figure" in the household. This is another topic, but what really pisses me off is that she never acknowledged what I did or gave up to take care of the household. Still to this day I haven't gotten a thank you, or you were a good daughter for doing that, etc.
Since then I have still lived with my parents but moreso as supporting them. My parents weren't working, my dad was struggling for work. I was responsible for all the bills, going to school, and working.
So yeah, I've felt like an adult since I was 18.
This is interesting to me. I was put in the same situation at 18. Well, it started at 16, but thats another story. I'm still bitter over it and sure it made me realize how to count every penny and how important it is to work, I don't feel like it made me 'more adult' because of it. I'm not sure if its because I'm an only child and essentially required to be more mature that I just didn't notice it, or what.
So I guess I'm changing my answer to 'sometimes'. When it comes to paying bills, budgeting, saving money, being responsible, I've got all of that down and know its an adult thing to do. Yet when it comes to thinking about having kids, traveling or what I want to be when I grow up, I definitely catch myself thinking 'Oh you can do that when you're older."
Married / The Cookaholic Wife
I felt like an adult as soon as I graduated college. I think I realized I had grown up when I came home after graduation and it didn't feel right being there anymore. I was used to the independence I had in college and wasn't willing to give it up. I moved out of my parent's house and in with H about a month after graduating and haven't been home since. H and I signed the lease on our old apartment but he was still working in NY at the time. So for almost three months, I lived by myself in the apartment and he would come out for job interviews, sometimes weekends, etc. Living on my own for awhile and setting up the apartment by myself also helped me grow up even more. H and I own our cars, have no student loans, and pay our bills and mortgage every month. We don't rely on anyone but ourselves to get by.
But, I think I will feel the MOST like an adult when I am eventually KU
I feel like an adult that can't act her age
I only really feel like an adult when I'm dealing with clients - I immediately switch to grown up mode. Then I hear myself speaking and I'm like who the fcuk is THIS bittchh?
TTC since 2010
Me: 36, slightly elevated FSH. Everything else (hysterescopy, HSG, b/w) normal.
DH:30, with super sperm? >200mil post wash
BFP #1 - May 2011 - m/c @ 8weeks
IUI #1 - July 26 2012 - Femara = BFN
Suprise BFP Jan 15 2013. Hope this one sticks!
I don't feel like an adult either. I've been financially independent from my parents since I was 17, have a good job, pay the bills, own a house, got married, all that stuff and I still find myself thinking, "I can't have kids yet. I'm not grown up enough."
LOL, love.
I feel like an adult in that I work, own my car, pay my own bills/loans/student loans, married, raise our dog, etc. Been working since 16 and my family is VERY poor. So everything I have, I earned. DH's family is wealthy and he grew up very privileged. Sometimes I feel he acts like a bratty kid.
That being said, I act like a complete child. Meaning I like to have fun, act goofy, do anything to make people laugh. Sometimes I think it makes me not seem "adult", but who's defining adult anyway?
Bills make me feel adult. Otherwise sometimes I feel 18, 12, 25, 30, 60, it depends on the day.
Not feeling like our age is a frequent topic amongst my friends, and we also don't feel like we've aged, but that others have. hahahahahahahah
Obviously, this is not true, but I think when you know people so long (we became friends at 12, we're now 34) they never look different to you whereas if you don't see someone for a while you can notice how different they look.