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~camedown~
Did you tell your families last weekend? How did it go? I hope everyone was happy and supportive. 
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I did! My Mom was really happy which was nice. My Mom is a little strange so I wasn't sure how happy/excited she would be. It was really nice that she felt so happy, and is excited about being a Grandma.
My Dad....ehhh. Ha ha ha. He doesn't like children. He said something along the lines of "well I am going to go get all excited like your Mother, but I am sure you will have a nice baby." I wasn't expecting him to be excited so it was fine.
Aw, I'm sorry your father isn't more outwardly excited for you. Even when you expect it, I know it still kind of stings. My mother actually ignored my pregnancy entirely until the last month. I would try to tell her things, and she would respond with "You're cousin is in her 2nd tri now" or something. Literally always turned the conversation to my pregnant cousin (we were due 3 weeks apart). I expected my loony mother to be weird about it, but it still hurt.
I am sorry LadyE. How is your Mom about the baby now?
It was a little strange telling my Mom because I wasn't sure what the reaction would be. I was less nervous to tell my Dad because I was certain he wouldn't be excited, but with my Mom I was hoping for a good reaction. I went to dinner with her, and I didn't know how to bring it up. I almost chickened out. Like I had already paid the check, and was sitting there...and then I was like okay I am just going to tell her. I have never had a great relationship with her so it is hard.
Eh, my mother is the type to like things when it's convenient to her, KWIM? She is always inviting us over and then it will be like "Oh btw, my friend is stopping by too, she wants to meet the baby" and she'll fuss over him. Don't get me wrong, I know she loves him, just like she loves me and my sisters, but she isn't super affectionate and she's pretty selfish. When my parents got divorced, I was already 18, but my father got custody of my 2 younger sisters and she never even challenged it. She just doesn't necessarily like being a parent, or grandparent, even though she loves us all, if that makes sense.
That's great that your mother is excited! It is so nerve-wracking telling people, isn't it? We have friends who never want kids and don't really like them, so we were nervous about telling them, but they were so supportive and still are.
Low expectations lead to much less disappointment, huh? Hahaha, that's what my sisters and I tell each other!
I know EXACTLY what you mean. My Mom is also really selfish. She is just consumed with herself. It is strange. I really have no expectations as far as her being a Grandma. It is nice that she is excited right now, and I am happy about that....but I have got my hopes up lots of times before only to have my heart broken. So we will see how it goes.
DH's family is crazy over the top excited which is really nice.
We did! We told them first. They were so super excited. They are like over the top excited. They are a little crazy about how involved they want to be, but I am setting boundaries now. Ha ha ha.
Good! haha Your MIL needs boundaries.
But yay for the super excitedness. I'm really happy for you. Oh, are you guys going team green or going to find out?
That's wonderful that your H's family is so excited! Boundaries are good... We should have set them sooner and earlier. PLUS, when DS was born, it was an e-c/s and I was shaking uncontrollably because of all the painkillers and I was vomiting everywhere, and I told H to go with the baby while I was in recovery. It sucks because IL's got to hold and cuddle DS before I really even got to see him at all
I wish I had discussed with DH how to handle that situation BEFORE we were in it.
Team Green!
I already told in-laws that they will be called AFTER we have the baby, and are moved into postpartum. My FIL is outraged by this, and keeps coming up with reasons why he should know immediately. They actually wanted to be with us on the ride to the hospital so they could video tape the ride. Luckily they live an hour away, and so unless they start monitoring our house they won't know. They are not the kind of people we could call and say "we are on the way, and we will call you when we are done." They would would want to know what was going on every second. I have been saying "This isn't a group event. You can come after to see the baby when WE are ready." I can already see what the next argument will be and will be that I do not want anyone coming to the hospital except parents and siblings. That is enough people right there without great grandparents, uncles, aunts etc. My in-laws want to include everybody in everything so I know they will be upset, but I am standing firm. We will invite people to our house once we get in and settled.
I think this is a great plan. We intended on keeping it pretty quiet when we went to the hospital, but I was a week late and had people checking in pretty frequently, so 18 hours of labor is hard to hide!
The only people who showed up were my parents and ILs, none of our siblings.