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grandparents
Its a slow day around here today and I am curious.
The people that have kids How often does your family and DH's family see your baby? Do they call and check on the baby often?
The people that don't have kids. How ofen did you see grandparents or close family growing up? How often did/do you talk to them?
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I dont have kids....
I had a very distant relationship with both sets of grandparents due to our geographic location. My mom's mom lives in L.A. and my dad's parent's lived in Seattle. I grew up in New Jersey.
When I was about 7, 8, 9, we would go to L.A. every summer for 2 wks, and my grandmother came out to visit maybe 3x or so that I can remember. My nana and bopo came out twice and we went out there twice before I was 10 (when my Bopo passed away)... I went out to Seattle again when I was 12, and again in 2003, 2005, 2006 each time my Nana was hospitalized and finally when she passed. I've since seen my Grandma in L.A. the past two years, once because she was sick and again last year for her 90th birthday, she's my only remaining grandparent.
It's probably sad I can count exactly how many times I've visited with my grandparents......
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Well when we lived near my family growing up I saw my Grandparents often. At least a couple of times a month. When we moved South I saw them once or twice a year. We always went up to visit and they came down to visit periodically.
Now that I'm an adult I'm sad to say I don't see them as often. I do call and talk and chat with them. I email my Grandma that's online.
I know they know what's going on in my life though through my parents. Unless I expressly say wait don't tell them I want to tell them ___. My parents tell them the good things that happen to Dh and I.
No kids here--I saw my maternal grandparents every two years or so since they lived in Mexico. Paternal, well--I saw my dad's dad every so often, but he and my dad are estranged and he had no interest in us growing up. I didn't meet my grandmother until I was 12. By then, it was too late. I couldn't, even though I tried, feel close to her.
Both my maternal grandparents have passed away and I wish I had talked to them more often as an adult (it was about once every two weeks when I was a kid, maybe once every two months as I got older). Paternal grandparents are still around, but we're not in touch.
I saw my mom's parents probably once a week since they lived really close to us. My grandparents always took my sisters and I to the zoo, museums, movies, etc. on the weekends because my parents worked a lot of weekends. My Grandma also taught us all to sew/craft and helped us with all our school projects.
I talked to my mom's family including cousins, aunts, and uncles all the time. Even though we're spread out over several states we've always been really close.
My dad's family is another story, we only saw them on major holidays or at weddings and funerals. As I've gotten older I've become a lot closer with some of my cousins on my dad's side, so I talk to them and see them more frequently now.
No kids for me either.
My dad's parents lived about 10 minutes from us, but I feel like we only saw them a few times a month. My brother and I each did about 3 or 4 activities (sports, music lessons, etc.), so we were pretty busy.
My mom's parents lived about 2 and a half hours away, so we really only saw them on holidays.
For me as a kid:
I saw my grandparents quite often growing up. My dads mother lived about an 1 1/2 hrs away so we would visit about once a month, and my sister and I would go stay with her 1-2 weeks every summer. Now I see her about once a month as she lives in assisted living.
My moms mom, we would see almost every weekend until she passed away 18 years ago.
My Kids:
They see my mom almost every day since she is the one who takes care of them while I am at work.
They see my dad about once a month or so/this includes my gram
DH's mom sees the boys about twice a month. We try to let her take them overnight about once every other month and then go and spend the day with her a couple times a month.
There are no grandfarthers on either side. My side one passed away either before I was born, and the other I was not aloud to meet.
My DH has no contact with his dad. He knows that DH is married and has kids, but that is about it.
Both mine and DH's parents live about 2 hours from us (our parents live about 30 minutes from each other). My parents come up as often as they can to see the boys (usually about once a month), it would be more but my mom has MS and my dad had a stroke a couple years ago so it's hard for them. I go see them about once a month too, depending on weather. As for DH's parents. The last time they came to visit us was at our wedding, but we have to go see them quite often. Probably 2-3 times a month. I talk to my mom almost every day and she usually talks to the boys and sings to them over the phone. I talk to Russell's mom about every 4-5 days and she talks to the boys briefly.
I didn't know my grandparents on my mom's side so the last time I remember seeing them I was probably 4 years old. And my grandfather on my dad's side passed quite some time ago and I live down the street from my grandma on my dad's side and honestly I haven't talked to her in about 4 years.
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No kiddos....
My Granny (Maternal) lived with us from the time I was in 2nd grade. My Grandpa (Paternal) I wasn't very close too. I talk to him about once a month.
My Grandma (Paternal) I was pretty close to. I would see her every other month and talk to her maybe 2x a month.
No kids yet.
My Gram (Mom's mom) - we saw her several times a week growing up. She was widowed at 50 and loved having us around to keep her occupied. We slept over most weekends and she would pick me up after school if I had practices. We moved in with her when I was 11 and she stayed with us until she died about 5 years ago. Grampy died the year before I was born so I never met him.
My Dad's parents disowned us for quite a period from when I was just over 1 until I was about 10. After Grandpa had an accident, they accepted us back in to their lives but by then, it's very difficult to bond. Especially when the other grandparent was so prominent. Now I see them every couple months. We make an effort to go out to see them. If not, you'll hear about it.
I am pretty close with my dad's family, who all live in Hong Kong. I saw my paternal grandparents practically every day when I lived there. Since we moved to Canada, I've seen them once every 2-3 years when I visit and talked to them several times a year on holidays. My paternal grandmother is the only one still alive now; the last time I saw her in person was at my wedding.
I never knew my maternal grandmother because she passed away a long time ago. I guess I saw my grandfather pretty often when I lived in Hong Kong, but he passed away before my first visit back. We weren't that close; I have many cousins on that side older than me.
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I was not close to either set of grandparents. Both grandfathers died before I was born. My mom's mother lived in New York, and my dad's mother lived in Louisiana. I grew up in Florida. I saw them a few times, but never had that cool grandparent-grandchild relationship a lot of people have.
Well my dad and stepmom live in Michigan (I'm in Missouri). They try to visit every 3 or 4 months right now.
My mom is now in Canada. She moved in September and has visited 3 or 4 times.
DH's parents live in town. We see them once or twice a week at least.
None of them are intrusive (although his Mom wants to be, I think his Dad keeps her in check). I talk to my Dad every month or so and my Mom every other day probably. But I do keep a blog (if you can call it that...been slacking lately) to keep everyone posted on his developments.
I saw close family pretty often when I was younger. Stayed with aunts and grandparents a lot. I love my set of grandparents dearly even though they spent half the year in FL when I was younger. I always wrote letters to them.
Growing up I didnt see my Grandparents too often. My Mom's mom passed away from breast cancer when I was 3. My grandfather was around until I was about 8 and then became a priest and moved to CT so I saw him a few times a year. My Dads parents live in NY and we saw them every few months.
My parents are adddicted. Seriously. They live 30 mins away, my Dad is laid off so he gets his "Makenna Fix" about every other day. I usually spend atleast 1 day on the weekend with my Mom and Makenna (girls day). And then we have family dinner on Sunday.
DH's parents live 1.5 hours away. We use to try to see them once a month but DH has been so busy with renos and side jobs that we only get to see them every few months.
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