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TTC & BFN

Ok I admit it DH and I have been trying to concive since January, and i have done everything that has been suggested to me to get the baby train to move into the station so this month when i was over 3 days late with my period I was esatic and so excited to take the test and see my BFP that I had been praying for, but now stupd AF reared her ugly head and i literly want to sob. AF means BFN and I feel like I am failing at this.and DH doesn't seem to understand he just keeps saying "Oh Barbett it's ok there is always next month." or "maybe it's just not in God's plans for us right now, but it will happen." and now i just want to hit him while I cry. what is wrong with me?

Re: TTC & BFN

  • I know how hard it is to TTC and it not happen month after month. The thing is you have to hang in there and know that it will happen, even if this wasn't your month.

    If you're not already doing so, I would suggest you read about charting and pick up the book Taking Charge of Your Fertility. I credit that with helping us to conceive when we did because if not I think it would have taken longer.

    Good luck to you!

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  • I agree with everything starsailorr said.  Charting was the best thing that I could have done. It made me learn so much about my body, and when I was ovulating. 

    Good luck, it will happen!

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  • Sadly this is the part in life where we learn that our teachers lied to us when they said getting pregnant was so easy. It's not just getting pregnant, it's then staying pregnant that can also be a challenge. Keep up the yoga, and charting. Remember even with perfect timing there's only a 30% chance of getting pregnant each month.
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  • I'm sorry.  It took 1.5 years of TTC before I got my BFP, so I understand the disappointment.
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  • FYI a majority of couples take 8-12 months to conceive, especially when the woman is just getting off of BC. you're not alone and nothing is wrong with you. try charting to keep track of your ovulation. good luck! 


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  • I've never ued birth control since i 20 and I get that it could take awhile it's just everyother person in my family get pregnant like a rabbit I swear there are so many "Oh I don't know how it happened we only went without a condom once and now i am all Knocked up and ***" then there is me who is trying my hardest just started hardcore trying in January but we still let nature do it's thing before then (pull out method) and nothing except stupid AF. I want to be a frigin' bunny man.
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    I've never ued birth control since i 20 and I get that it could take awhile it's just everyother person in my family get pregnant like a rabbit I swear there are so many "Oh I don't know how it happened we only went without a condom once and now i am all Knocked up and ***" then there is me who is trying my hardest just started hardcore trying in January but we still let nature do it's thing before then (pull out method) and nothing except stupid AF. I want to be a frigin' bunny man.

    Well. That's rather lewd and crude.

    Animals who reproduce a lot do so because their survival rate is so much lower. I do not think you really want to be a bunny.

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  • not in the lewd and crude way no i am sorry about that it's just but the quote actual quote that I got from a cousin. but i was alittle upset that it seems so easy for my family and my freinds at work and so hard for me. Plus there is the want to get a family started while my husband is still young enough to want anouther child
  • Not many people talk readily about their troubles conceiving. So while I'm sure it seems like everyone around you is breeding like bunnies, many others may not be having such an easy time.

    Good luck. It will happen in due time.

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  • you've been trying since January 2010 or 2011? just another FYI, there are women who have tried to years to conceive and have not succeeded. so honestly, if you've only been trying for 2 months and are already getting frustrated, you've got a hard road ahead of you. try not to think about what everyone else around is doing - chances are, you know a LOT of people who have trouble TTC... they just don't talk about it. 

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  • we started trying in January of 2010 not to hard mind not to the extent that we are now but still trying and then 2011 rang in and we started trying really hard core. I just get discoraged I guess when everyone else seems to be doing it around me in RL ya know?
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