do you typically invite all of the kids in the class? normally i would say yes to this, but now that i am in the situation i dont feel like its something you have to do especially if its a smallish party. so why am i feeling guilty?
we are having a family and friends party for mila. i am not going crazy with two seperate. there are quite a few adults and probably 8 or so kids. some of the kids are family or our friends kids. we invited 3 of her friends from school that we know she plays with in school. she plays with others, but mostly these few. there are 16 kids in her class in total. i just could not imagine 16 kids plus parents and possibly their siblings along with my family and friends. it just seemed nuts. is it rude of me to leave the other 12 or 13 kids out? i hope not! there is nothing i can do about it now... i just hope the other parents wont feel bad about if they hear about her party.
Re: birthday party question(if your kid is in school)
Not sure what the current etiquette is but if I had to invite all the kids from my horrible clique-y elementary school I would have given up the party altogether
So what I'm saying is, I don't think you need to invite everyone. I know my co-worker who has young kids feels frazzled getting all the gifts and going to all the parties her son and daughter are invited to by their friends, and getting invited by someone who didn't really hang out with her kids would be an extra expense and time away from other things. I think you'd be doing the parents of those kids a favor by not tying up their day :-)
I hope that didn't sound snooty - didn't mean it to be!
My rule of thumb is (as a teacher and parent) it's fine to not invite the whole class as long at the invites are handed out at school. The worst thing is to see a child handing out invites and the look on the kids who don't get one is heart wrenching. I've always mailed them or hand delivered them myself. Maybe there is a way to ask around for addresses.
In the younger grades the max I'd have for DS is 10 kids. Now that he's getting older, its going down to 5 or 6 close friends.
no not at all. i remember us always inviting everyone when we were small..not so much as we got older but kindergarten, 1st 2nd grade..
thats the thing- we have been invited to a few and everyone in the class always seems to be there!