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Married/Divorced/Separated/Babified/Working non stop - it ain't no thang
Earlier this week, when Sikes posted the question about how much longer we'd have the board, I got to thinking about it a lot this week (while I was at work, not posting).
We're not in the same places anymore. And, I actually think that makes us a stronger, wiser group than when we were all working towards a common goal (the wedding month of the century). I think it's the differences that make things really interesting.
We're not like other boards, waiting to pounce on the unhappiness of others. I don't want to speak for everyone, but I don't think any of us get a kick out of anyone else's pain, nor do we walk away in smug satisfaction, thinking that'll never be me, as I've seen done on many another board here.
Whether you're going through a rough patch or a great patch, we're here to support each other, you know? I don't want to lose anyone because they feel like they don't fit the mould anymore. We define the shape of this place, and I'd like to think it includes all of us regardless of the state of our marriages, whether we have babies or our job situations.
Re: Married/Divorced/Separated/Babified/Working non stop - it ain't no thang
I can't tell you how great it was that even though I've been MIA posting for months, when I was stressed, I got so many words of encouragement. I think that's the bonds of true friendship, internet or not. We wouldn't tear our friends in real life apart, and we wouldn't do it to each other, either.
Cheers, August Naughties!
Hear hear!
Also, the board has been slower lately...but I think that is also natural. Just like with friendships IRL, sometimes they are more active because schedules allow it--at least for me, I'll go through patches with friends where we talk almost daily, get together a lot, etc...then we get busy and will go a few weeks without much contact. It doesn't have anything to do with the friendship itself, or mean the friendship is less valuable in any way, just that life gets busy...but we also know the friendship is still there when we need it and when we get the chance to come up for air...
BFP 5/2/11, missed m/c, D&C 6/13/11
BFP 12/8/11--Little Girl E Born 8/22/12
The Daily Nugget
Cycle 12, IUI #1 - 33m post wash 10/15/10 = BFN
Cycle 13, IUI #2 - 15m post wash 11/16/10 = BFP, missed m/c, D&C 1/3/11
Cycle 15 - 18, IUI #3-6 = BFN
Cycle 20, IUI #7 = BFP!, missed m/c 9/14, D&C
DE-IVF Aug. 2012: ER 8/30 11R, 7M, 4F; ET 9/4 returned 2
Beta 9/18 #1-820, #2-1699, #3-7124
10/1 1st u/s measuring right on track, 125 bpm
Extremely well said. I know there have been times when I've considered leaving--not because of external factors, really, but because I wasn't here during the wedding planning and I felt like I didn't fit the mold. I stayed on because I began to see how dynamic the board was, and I truly wanted to offer support for the good and not so good things that people are going through. I know I don't post a lot or put myself out there much (it's crazy, but I'm now more internet-shy than IRL-shy), but it's been helpful knowing that some people are going through similar things and seeing how they move forward. While there's honesty here, people also consider others' feelings.
Thanks for being a place where we can be ourselves and share our lives, 08/09.
It's true. We are all so different right now, but we've always had each other in common since we were engaged.
Thanks for posting this Kaesha..
Agreed. I know I have been a bad Aug 09-er and barely get a chance to come on but you ladies still mean a bunch to me.
Jess & Waylon 08.08.09 ~ My Blog!
Now jumping domestically.
Well that was a crazy couple of years.