IL advice re: moving on

Re: IL advice re: moving on

• Augustbride

  March 2011

  I don't really speak with my IL's supper long story that I would never put on here. However I just try to be friendly if we are at their house. I do not go out of my way to contact them or strike up a conversation. We were close but they showed me that they did not consider me a part of the family. So whatever.   Give them time until then let DH deal with them
  

  

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• Melanie2003

  March 2011

  i have no idea what happened, ie- how horrible it was, if it is forgiveable but not forgettable, or whether they are real sh!ts....

  i co-exist. i don't go above and beyond. i am pleasant when we're together. i let dh deal with most of the stuff that involves them
  

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• mrse1107

  March 2011

  Melanie2003:

  i have no idea what happened, ie- how horrible it was, if it is forgiveable but not forgettable, or whether they are real sh!ts....

  i co-exist. i don't go above and beyond. i am pleasant when we're together. i let dh deal with most of the stuff that involves them
  

  its on the FB page.... i spilled the beans ;0)

  
  
  
  

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• i3utaphly1

  

  March 2011

  Melanie2003:

  i co-exist. i don't go above and beyond. i am pleasant when we're together. i let dh deal with most of the stuff that involves them
  

  This. Im sure it's more complicated because of kids but I still don't plan to go out of my way because they sure don't

  
  

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• chrisnjay05212010 member

  

  March 2011

  i3utaphly1:

  Melanie2003:

  i co-exist. i don't go above and beyond. i am pleasant when we're together. i let dh deal with most of the stuff that involves them
  

  This. Im sure it's more complicated because of kids but I still don't plan to go out of my way because they sure don't

  this too!
  

  
  

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• mrsredmoose

  March 2011

  I'm sorry you're going through this.  It is so unfair.  Growing up, my Dad had a falling out with his BIL and we rarely saw that side b/c of it, which was fine b/c they aren't always very nice to me.  Since my parents split up, I've seen him more often though. Do you have family on your side?  Perhaps you will just grow closer to them and their love will compensate the absence of the others for your LOs. Hopefully in your situation, your ILs will wise up soon.

  

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• navybride06 member

  

  March 2011

  it is awkward. I too don't go out of my way,  before our blow out I would go shopping with MIL weekly, eat at their house a ton while DH was deployed or just working.  I am super close with the extended family.  

  I basically keep it on a need-to-know basis.  

  

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• Melanie2003

  March 2011

  i'm not on the FB page
  

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• JennyNel member

  

  March 2011

  It's awkward for us too. Since our blow up years ago it's never quite been the same.  We used to go over there a lot more often than we do now and even just talking to them seems weird/uncomfortable to me sometimes.

  
  
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