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Bad News Update
I guess I'm just venting . . .
So it turns out that gma has two tumors, one in her uterus and one behind her uterus. The one behind her uterus may involve a lymph node as well. Both are comparatively large and her primary care doctor thinks that its cancer because they've done testing to rule almost everything else out.
This is all really trying because everyone in my family is . . . I don't know. I want to say useless, but that's not the right word. I guess it's more that they panic and then can't think straight. I found out what kind of doctor she'd need and researched doctors in their area (with help from my doctor friends that I went to college with) and sent along some contact info. My mother wants to wait to do anything until her one doctor friend gets back to her. This woman has historically taken 2-3 weeks to respond to my mother. These tumors were not present when my grandmother had imaging done in Oct. I don't think we can wait 2-3 weeks for this woman's advice. My uncles are utterly stupid (actually one of them got into a bar fight on Saturday and got his thumb bitten off!!!!! he didn't go to the hospital until WEDNESDAY! To top it off, he's diabetic and now likely has a bone infection). When I try to talk to my mother about things, her response to everything, whether it's a question, suggestion or even an answer to one of her questions, is "I don't know, Crissy, I just don't know."
When I found out at 11PM last night, I cried for an hour straight. H was awesome about it and so was Kaycee. She sat on my shoulder and rubbed her face against the side of mine the whole time. I love that cat.
I'm torn about what to do this weekend. Gma isn't taking any phone calls. She kicked everyone out of her house last night and said she just wanted to be alone. I imagine I would feel the same (except I'd want H around). So I don't want to go down this weekend and make her feel like she has to see me. I'm thinking I might go down for the day on Sunday.
I feel like this would be so much less stressful if I could be there and deal with it by myself and not have to deal w/ my family members that are essentially a bunch of children throwing temper tantrums because life isn't going their way.
If you got through all of this, you deserve a prize. 
I wish it were a bottle of wine. I'll probably be drinking one tonight.
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Re: Bad News Update
I wish I could say something besides "I'm sorry" but those words seem to say it all. I'm sending lots and lots of thoughts and prayers your way for you and your family.
Hopefully, your grandma will come around by Sunday and you'll be able to visit with her (without the rest of your family).
(((hugs)))
oh man...i'm so sorry you're having to go through this. it sucks that your family can't be the adults in this situation. at least you have a great hubby to support you. i agree, you shouldn't wait for your mothers friend to respond...i'd definitely contact the doctor your friend recommended! i hope your gma can't get whatever kind of treatment she needs fast and that everything goes back to normal, the sooner the better! we're all here for you
I am so sorry you have to deal with this. I know first hand how hard a diagnosis like this can be on an entire family, so I definately sympathize. Everyone deals with crisis and difficult situations differently - it sounds like your family's response is to shut down. Your grandmother is lucky to have you around keeping a level head.
It's great you already have some contact info gathered - I agree it's best to act quickly. Tumors are unpredictable and can spread like weeds. Your grandmother shouldn't be waiting another couple weeks to be seen, and a good doctor from the contacts you give her will recognize the urgentness and get her in for an appointment ASAP. If you need to, I would help your grandmother schedule an appointment and maybe not tell your mom right away. The earlier she gets seen and starts any recommended treatment, the better her outcome will be and I'm sure your mom can't argue with that even if her first reaction is anger.
I think your grandmother must be very scared and should not be surrounded by family members and people in general (who even though may have good intentions) are causing her added stress. She needs to relax, keep calm, get in to see the doctor ASAP, and take it one step at a time. Just help her focus on that right now and ignore your family's white noise around you.
I'm so sorry honey. I definitely can understand what you're going through. You family is lucky to have someone that can keep a steady mind during such a difficult time. Hopefully, someone can take a breath for a second and actually take your advice and help.
Give your grandma lots of love.
I'll keep you and your gma in my thoughts.
I'm sorry you're dealing with this. Thumb bitten off REALLY.
Does your gram have an answering machine?