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getting preggers on a schedule
How early do people normally start planning on geeting pregnant? DH and I would love to have two kids, at least 4 years apart and both born in December. We want to start trying next year March. When is a good time to start getting ready? I read a few websites and some mentioned as far out a one year, but that seems a little exaggerated. My mom's 40 year old friend did A LOT of medical tests to make sure she is healthy to have a baby... should I do that as well? I will be 31 this summer, and am not sure where and when to start preparing for the first baby... any ideas?
Re: getting preggers on a schedule
We have had it mapped ever since we got back together after a three year break. Dating for at least a year before getting engaged, engaged for at least a year before getting married. Married for at least two years before having a baby. We plan to start TTC May of next year.
I think it's safe to say that we are starting to plan for it now. Since we just bought a house, that part is off our checklist of things to do before starting a family, so we're really focusing on our finances. We're paying down bills so that by the time we would have a baby the only bills we would have would be insurance, cell phone, utilities, and mortgage.
I am also overweight (200lbs-ish) and have decided to get myself down to a healthier weight by the time we TTC. I've started dieting and once we are moved into our house I'm going to start going to the gym that's around the corner.
That's just the timeline we're looking at, with our situation. I think it's going to take the time from now until May next year to achieve those goals.
But that's just me... :-)
We both went to the Dr right after the wedding for a pre-conception visit. I am 30 and hubby is 26. Our doctor told me to start prenatal vitamins and keep track of start dates of periods. She told us bot to have lots of sex... She also suggested that neither of us drink while trying to conceive.
She told us to try for 6 months and if we still were not pregnant to call her.
We are hoping this cycle is the one! Good Luck!
You are young, so I don?t think you need to worry too much about the medical testing your mom?s friend needed. They usually don?t recommend that stuff until you are over 35. I?d suggest you talk to you gynecologist on your next visit and educate yourself a bit about the process. If you tell her you are thinking of starting to try I?m sure she?ll have plenty of advice. Even if you are healthy, there is only like a 20% change of getting pregnant each cycle, so it can take several months of trying to get pregnant. And it is really difficult to time it exactly to have 2 babies in December, so I?d probably remember that is very unlikely. They usually say to try naturally for about 6 months before you need to start talking to your doctor about fertility issues. I would maybe read up on www.fertilityfriend.com. They have a ton of information about your cycle and fertility and can help you figure out when you are ovulating so you can increase your chances of getting pregnant. Good luck to you!
If you are on birth control - you probably want to be off it for at least a year so you can get back to a normal cycle & chart when you ovulate. Sadly you can have all the sex you want during the month, but if you don't have sex when you ovulate your chances of getting pregnant are very slim.You can buy an ovulation prediction kit or you can chart your temperature, etc. to find out when you ovulate (check out the book -- Taking Charge or your Fertility).
I think it would be VERY difficult to have a baby during a specific month -- many women find it takes months to get pregnant & even if you did get pregnant & had a December due date there is no guarantee you will give birth in December. My sister was due with her first in mid-december & went into labor a full month early!
I would check out the Getting Pregnant board on the Nest they probably have some tips. I would just be realistic with your expectations of conceiving. Some people get pregnant right away & others struggle -- it all depends on your body & no one here can predict when you will be able to have a child.
This is something you really want to discuss with your health care professional. He/She will be able to give wonderful advice on preparing your body for pregnancy.
But remember that the chances of getting pregnant and giving birth in a specific time frame are infinitesimally small. There is only a short window of time each month to get pregnant anyway. And the added stress of adhering to a certain pregnancy schedule is not good.
Do the creep.
Wow, a lot of responses, thank you, Ladies
lexiarein - sounds like you have a good plan. I want to get a little stronger and into a better condition before getting pregnant. I don't have weight issues, but I don't really sleep enough and am constantly tired. I read that this may impede my ability to get pregnant and make the pregancy that much harder. I eat crap too, need to get this fixed. Love the idea of the phone app, will download one
@stormchaserbride - you read your other post about waiting to take a pregnancy test. Crossing fingers!!!
We are using condoms - DH never minded them, and I was only on the pill during our engagement. I was worried I will get pregnant accidentally before the wedding, and would have to change the dress, not drink, explain to more conservative family members... The moment we came back from the honeymoon, I got off the pill.
I started taking prenatal pills last month because I heard they help with your hair and nails
Do you have any preferred brands? I am using the Vitamin Shoppe capsules because I feel that they dissolve faster, but that's just one of my theories.
It's funny, but I know that it's hard to get pregnant on the exact day when you start trying, and yet I totally assumed I would have no issues getting pregnant in March next year and have the baby in December... Ha Ha thank you for bringing me back to Earth, Ladies. I also believe I will have boys, like it's something in my control
DH read somewhere that if you have sex on the same day as your ovulation, you have a higher chance of having a boy, because the "boy bearing" sperm is faster. "girl bearing" sperm is more durable, so it survives longer inside. I hope this gave you the laughs it gave me. He just said he will download the Android app to his phone to make sure we don't miss sex on ovulation days 
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This actually has some real basis in fact. Certain times you're more susceptible to have a boy, others, a girl. I know it's not fool-proof, but if you really want a specific gender, it can't hurt to try!
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I'm glad to hear this! I was worried you would have unrealistic expectations and freak out if it didn't work out iwth your plan. I know some women who have gotten pregnant their first month and others who it took over a year (and fertility treatments). And age did'nt seem to matter. It is better to go in hoping for hte best, but planning for the worst (well, maybe not planning but with the understanding that it might not be as easy as you hope). That way you can deal with whatever happens!
And I had actually heard the sperm/gender thing too, although I would never count on it!
PS. Based on your siggy pic, you look like a very healthy weight to me! Beautiful photo!