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XP: telling work I'm pg
After being laid off back in November, I recently started working again. I'm in the middle of my third week here. I found out I was pregnant back in February, interviewed in March. Here's my dilemma, as soon as the offer was made to me through my recruiter (the day after my interview), I alerted my recruiter to my situation. He said he'd run it by his contact at my new company.
Fast forward to the Friday before I start and I find out he never told them, because they said to wait until after 13 weeks "just in case something happens." Now I'm 12 weeks, I have my u/s next week and I'm going to tell them, but I have no idea how to approach this.
Two things that should be noted: first, I am contract employee so company isn't paying my salary, recruitment firm is. Second, I really really like it here and want to continue after a standard 12 week ML under FMLA, which I know I'm not covered for but want to take unpaid regardless.
Basically any advice you can give me on how to approach my boss at the actual company would be great.
Re: XP: telling work I'm pg
FET - transferred two embryos (boy and girl) - Nov 2014 - BFP!
The problem with wanting a standard 12 week ML is that you are not covered and therefore not entitled to it, pay has nothing to do with it.
The question you have to ask yourself is - if they say that they cannot accommodate a 12 week leave, are you willing to negotiate?
And then I would approach it with that in mind. Ask for a meeting to speak privately with the boss. Let them know that you are exepecting, and are hoping that they can accommodate a regular 12 week leave of absence for you beginning in X month.
As terrible as it is, I'm not sure how long the contract was for. It happened so quickly and I was so anxious to get back to work that I didn't ask. I have since emailed my recruiter for some clarification on a few things.
I know I'm not getting paid for a ML. What I meant by "covered" was that I want to take it, knowing it's not guaranteed.
My plan now is to have a sit down with my in company boss and lay it out for him. Tell him that I was under the impression that my recruiter would fill him in, but was later told to wait until I was given the all clear by my doctor. Tell him that I really like it here and hope to remain employed after an ideal 12 week ML. I guess I was hoping for some magical words of wisdom that would make this less awkward. Wishful thinking I guess...
I would first contact the recruiter and find out how long the contract is. If it is a four month contract, there may be nothing to discuss and I wouldn't tell your boss. If it were to get extended beyond that time, then I'd let them know.
If it is a year contract, for example, I'd give them a heads up and let them know what you'd like to do. However, they are not legally required to hold that spot for you. For one, you will not have been there for a year, so you're not eligible for FMLA. Also, you are not their employee - you are the employee of the staffing company - so they have no obligation to keep it for you.
Do check your state laws though. I live in a state where you only need to work for 6 months before being eligible for leave.
FET - transferred two embryos (boy and girl) - Nov 2014 - BFP!
BTW thanks for the responses.