Independent or Co-Dependent

karebear304 · March 2011

No idea what made me think of this, but are you and your H more independent or co-dependent?

I'd say we're definitely more co-dependent. We are both responsible and could survive without the other one and do when H deploys and things, but on a daily basis we're kind of up each other's behinds. We rarely hang out separately, even on the weekends. We run errands together, eat together, etc.

Blonde407 · March 2011

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BMWwife · March 2011

Id say we are pretty independent. I mean we go days without seeing each other for me then 2 hrs at a time. On our days I try to make them all about us. We both usually have at least one day a week that one is off while the other is working.

cschissell · March 2011

karebear304:
No idea what made me think of this, but are you and your H more independent or co-dependent?

I'd say we're definitely more co-dependent. We are both responsible and could survive without the other one and do when H deploys and things, but on a daily basis we're kind of up each other's behinds. We rarely hang out separately, even on the weekends. We run errands together, eat together, etc.

We are a lot like this. We can function without each other, but we do prefer to spend a lot of time together.

buckswife08 · March 2011

we're definitely co-dependent. and i think that i'm more independent than H in a lot of ways. he's never lived alone....and i have, so i was used to that alone time much more than him. we do pretty much everythign together....but it's starting to change now that we can't take Bennett everywhere anymore (almost 2 year olds are AWESOME). we used to grocery shop together but now i do that by myself. we pretty much spend the weekends completely together, unless H has is doing hw...then i pretty much take B and do something outside of the house to give him quiet time. if we had a choice, we'd spend much more time together. when it comes down to it, after hw and everything after work, we only sit down for like an hour iwht one another everyday.

shmoozer · March 2011

We're mostly independent. We hardly do anything together these days mostly b/c of our schedules not jiving. We do try to spend time together. For example, last Monday we had a sex-capade in the morning that was when he came home from FL and then we went grocery shopping. That was a ncie day for us. After this FL trip, I'm more independent b/c I was able to get over being home alone and actually enjoyed it towards the end. The beginning was HARDER than I thought it would be, but by the end of the week, I was enjoying the quiet house.

starletcarly · March 2011

cschissell:
karebear304:
No idea what made me think of this, but are you and your H more independent or co-dependent?

I'd say we're definitely more co-dependent. We are both responsible and could survive without the other one and do when H deploys and things, but on a daily basis we're kind of up each other's behinds. We rarely hang out separately, even on the weekends. We run errands together, eat together, etc.
We are a lot like this. We can function without each other, but we do prefer to spend a lot of time together.

Us too. I think it's because DH worked 2nd shift for so long and we felt like we never had enough time together. He works 1st shift now, but I still want to spend lots of time with him.

Bella in CT · March 2011

starletcarly:
cschissell:
karebear304:
No idea what made me think of this, but are you and your H more independent or co-dependent?

I'd say we're definitely more co-dependent. We are both responsible and could survive without the other one and do when H deploys and things, but on a daily basis we're kind of up each other's behinds. We rarely hang out separately, even on the weekends. We run errands together, eat together, etc.
We are a lot like this. We can function without each other, but we do prefer to spend a lot of time together.
Us too. I think it's because DH worked 2nd shift for so long and we felt like we never had enough time together. He works 1st shift now, but I still want to spend lots of time with him.

Ditto. We're fairly independent, but prefer to be co-dependent.

With school and work and such we really only see each other for an hour a day during the week. So, on weekends we try to spend as much time together as possible.

D&J_052408 · March 2011

Bella in CT:
starletcarly:
cschissell:
karebear304:

No idea what made me think of this, but are you and your H more independent or co-dependent?

I'd say we're definitely more co-dependent. We are both responsible and could survive without the other one and do when H deploys and things, but on a daily basis we're kind of up each other's behinds. We rarely hang out separately, even on the weekends. We run errands together, eat together, etc.

We are a lot like this. We can function without each other, but we do prefer to spend a lot of time together.

Us too. I think it's because DH worked 2nd shift for so long and we felt like we never had enough time together. He works 1st shift now, but I still want to spend lots of time with him.

Ditto. We're fairly independent, but prefer to be co-dependent.

With school and work and such we really only see each other for an hour a day during the week. So, on weekends we try to spend as much time together as possible.

Pretty much the same here. I get to see H for about 2 hours a day during the week so on the weekends we spend a lot of time together.

karebear304 · March 2011

Is it bad that H and I see each other every night from 5:30 on and eat, watch tv together every night and then still hang out together all weekend??

MarylandWed · March 2011

karebear304:
Is it bad that H and I see each other every night from 5:30 on and eat, watch tv together every night and then still hang out together all weekend??

i wouldn't think so. i mean i'm sure you spend time with other people from time to time. if you shunned the world only for you two, then yes, but i'm sure it's not like that.

we are a little of both. it's hard to explain. we are very independent but we need each other too. sometimes i think we are too independent though. we are not that compatible interest-wise, so it's hard to find things that are appealing to both us of like on tv or movies.

karebear304 · March 2011

MarylandWed:

karebear304:
Is it bad that H and I see each other every night from 5:30 on and eat, watch tv together every night and then still hang out together all weekend??

i wouldn't think so. i mean i'm sure you spend time with other people from time to time. if you shunned the world only for you two, then yes, but i'm sure it's not like that.

we are a little of both. it's hard to explain. we are very independent but we need each other too. sometimes i think we are too independent though. we are not that compatible interest-wise, so it's hard to find things that are appealing to both us of like on tv or movies.

Yeah, we do hang out with other people. I occasionally go dancing with the girls and he plays basketball with the boys. I guess I just started thinking about it b/c we have a set of friends and they are never together. He's a radio DJ so he's up early and then has these odd random nighttime hours and she works regular hours. Then she likes to go dancing with her friends a lot on the weekend. It works for them, but that would never work for us. Made me realize we were very co-dependent.

colenmike · March 2011

We're both. H travels so we're forced to be independent sometimes but when he's in town we like to do things together. Now some nights I watch my shows in bed while he's in the living room but even he'll come in and watch some real housewives haha

On the weekends we do a lot together. I have been going to the store alone because he'll be doing yard work but sometimes he comes with.

I enjoy his company a lot so karebear I understand. But I don't mind him being away. I'd say he's more co-depenedent of me as far as household/finances stuff like that

MadameD517 · March 2011

This is hard to answer for us. My inital thought is co-dependent because when we're not working we usually do everything together. But we work opposite schedules so we don't actually get many days to do things together so maybe that's why we do everything together on the days we can???

BMWwife · March 2011

MadameD517:
This is hard to answer for us. My inital thought is co-dependent because when we're not working we usually do everything together. But we work opposite schedules so we don't actually get many days to do things together so maybe that's why we do everything together on the days we can???

That is us. We are lucky if we get one day off together a week. Last week we didnt have any days off together but he got off at 3 a few days that I was off so that helped.

KlassyWithaK · March 2011

By default independent. When we're together definitely co-dependent, but we also don't see each other that often. I think for awhile after we're married we'll be very dependent, just because its the first time we'll be around each other that much. We both like having time to ourselves though, so after time that probably will go back to independent.

nola Steph · March 2011

Currently... very dependent. It seems to change with the seasons tho. Given if I am working or not, J's schedule, having kids, etc etc. We are both fine and dandy with being independent, but right now the dependency just... works.

I miss being more independent, but I adore J and miss him terribly when we are apart. I'm a sap. I've hated his schedule lately and cannot wait for it to calm the F down.

buckeyethor · March 2011

We go back and forth with what works in our lives at the time. We eat as a family though.

xDanniellex · March 2011

Definitely co-dependent. Our friends have pretty much dropped off the face of the Earth. So what free time H does get is spent with the little man and I. Not that he minds.

H has done stuff with guys from work, but I don't have a girlfriend that I can call up and go hang with just us girls. I really need to meet some new people. Preferably ones that aren't intimidated by the fact that I have a kid! I'm actually looking forward to starting my internship on Monday to give me a little more freedom and time out of the house.

Sorry, I'll stop ranting now.

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