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Holy slow board! Opinions on this thread...
I figured others must be as bored as I am. This is from S&R and the 2nd to last comment completely floored me. I do think that the OP (who has her own set of issues) needs to talk openly with her husband and they absolutely need to find a common ground that meets both of their needs. My shock completely came from the advice of the girl I quoted in my response. Thoughts?
http://community.thenest.com/cs/ks/forums/51347092/ShowThread.aspx#51347092
ETA: I guess it's the 3rd to last response once i added mine.
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Re: Holy slow board! Opinions on this thread...
IDK whether the OP mentioned if they'd had sex before marriage or not & I may be going out on a huge limb here... BUT....
That right there is one of the biggest reasons I believe in pre-marital sex. I cannot imagine spending the rest of my life with someone that I am that sexually incompatible with.
They need to go to counseling ASAP. They need to try to get on the same page. But I tend to believe that having a successful marriage is nearly impossible when you're that drastically different in the bedroom. While that one response was completely out of line, let's be honest: If they continue down this path without counseling & she won't give him what he wants in bed, he probably will stray.**
This is why I believe you have sex before marriage. You need to know what you're getting into & if its something you can live with.
**ETA: I want to elaborate a little more. I don't think he's being respectful towards her. I don't think she should have to do things she's uncomfortable with, so if they don't figure this out, I don't see this marriage lasting.
I completely agree with everything you just said, and I really don't think drastic sexual incompatibility can be overcome. Counseling is definitely needed asap & I agree with the poster that said if that doesn't work they may need to divorce and move on.
I'm just amazed at the women basically saying "you better do it if you don't want him getting it somewhere else." I could never be in a marriage if that was in the back of my mind. I also could never respect DH if he constantly wanted me to do something that he KNEW while it was happening that I was miserable & in pain. I think that would just lead to resentment. I think other than the one post she got a lot of good advice.