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So, I called my friend out on his language...
Mostly because it didn't stop. I tried gently the other night--saying, "I honestly don't think we should talk until after the election is over because both of us have our emotions running high..."
That's when he gave me the first, "You're being too sensitive" line. But the angry, racist, bigoted remarks kept showing up as comments on my facebook page, in texts, and in my email. So I finally told him. I didn't appreciate his language, I didn't think it was necessary and that he sounded incredibly bigoted.
His response? Another "you're entirely too sensitive" along with, "I hope you know that every time I write those things to you, I have a great big smile on my face because it amuses me. You can't take it when we talk politics. You're just proving that you fall for demogoguery."
And now...I'm done. Officially.
I don't talk politics with him because the language is peppered with hateful terms--not because I can't take it. I don't talk politics with him because even when I make valid points, they're not recognized.
Now I'm a source of amusement? And apparently someone that can't think for herself?
Yeah, I'm officially, officially done. And today--unlike the other night--I don't feel bad about losing this friendship.
Amazing how an election can really do this, huh?
Re: So, I called my friend out on his language...
Ugh. I'm sorry to hear that you lost a friend, but it seems like it's for the best. Racial slurs are bad enough, but the fact that he was enjoying making you upset isn't something a true friend does.
Now you can spend more effort cultivating other friendships with non-jerks!
Are you PMSing? ?Is that why you're being so emotional and sensitive right now?
Honestly, given what you've mentioned of him, I'm surprised he didn't try that line of attack. ?What a douche. ?I'm sure it's hard, but I think you're better off to be rid of him.?
Ha, Sibil....surprisingly, that's the one thing that's been missing. Sexist douchebaginess.
Perhaps he had some standards after all, lol. Thank you for making me smile about it
honestly - what an ass. $10 says he's single. He's shown his true colors. If he'd rather say his horrid thing than have you as a friend - well, I guess he's made his choice. What kind of a person thinks its ok to be so disgusting?
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I'm sorry you lost a friend, but I'm glad you feel good about it.
FWIW, you're a far better woman than me by lasting that long trying to keep the friendship.
Ditto. I think bigots are cowards at heart - they are afraid of others. The only reason the election plays a part is that he feels like he has company in his hatefulness, so the coward is emboldened to speak out.
Sorry you lost a friend.
I'm sorry that you lost a friend, but I think it's pretty clear this will be more his loss than your's.
Wow, what an A$$. Im sorry you had to lose a friend, but he certainly dosent seem like someone I would want to be friendly with.
Honestly, I dbout this was just about the election. I have plenty of friends that are conservatives and they still treat me and my opinions with respect, and I do the same back. This guy apparently have no respect for you, and you dont need a friend like that.