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Tell Me How You'd Feel

I'm being a PW this morning, I know. But anyways, tell me I'm just being hormonal.

Chris got tickets to go to this concert this weekend in AC from a guy at work on Saturday night.  He didn't even ask me if I wanted to go with, he just decided to ask the guy at work. The reason he didn't ask me to go along is because I don't particularly care for that type of music, it's some older blues singer.  I figured I would go along and enjoy it, and we could get a  nice dinner out in AC alone, since my parents are coming down for the day/night.  I don't know if I'm just being hormonal and just wanted to get a night out alone with him since we don't get many of them anymore.  Would you be a little upset if your DH didn't ask you to go?

Re: Tell Me How You'd Feel

  • Ok so he got tickets from a guy at work and then asked another guy to go with him and didn't tell either of you this until it was already done?

    Yeah, I would be upset.  At least for the option for what you wanted to do.  That seems a bit presumptuous for him to assume.

  • I'm a little confused. So you two had talked about going together before he bought them? 
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  • No he asked the same guy that gave him the tickets, but he gave them to him as a birthday present.  So Chris's reasoning was that he need to take him as a thank you, which I understand, but I'm just upset the didn't even ask me first.
  • If I know myself I would be ticked that he didn't at least ask me.

  • If you two didn't discuss going together prior to him buying the tickets, then I wouldn't be mad. Especially if it was music that didn't appeal to me. That's just me though.
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  • if i didn't care for the music, i wouldn't be upset...justin has went to a few concerts without me without discussing it.  I can totally understand wanting a night out with him though, so why don't you plan a special night out for the two of you in the next week or so?
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  • The guy bought Chris the tickets for Chris's birthday, so Chris thought he should ask the guy to with.
  • I'd be a little bummed too. But I know that there are a few people that Drew works with who would expect to be invited to go to the concert even if the tickets were a gift. Especially if they knew it was something that didn't really appeal to me. He may have felt like he was put in a tough spot with the tickets.

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  • I would be bummed since it would be a time we could be together with out the LO. Even though you may not like that kind of music an invite would have been nice. But that is just me.
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  • imageOct08b2bee:
    If you two didn't discuss going together prior to him buying the tickets, then I wouldn't be mad. Especially if it was music that didn't appeal to me. That's just me though.

    this is how i would feel.  but we also do things like this with work people anyway so i wouldn't think anything of it.

    maybe he thought you'd want to spend time with your parents?

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  • imageKupuggie:
    The guy bought Chris the tickets for Chris's birthday, so Chris thought he should ask the guy to with.

    I'd be bummed but understanding. Chris and this guy obviously have the same taste in music and the guy probably bought the tickets for Chris so they could both go together (even if he didn't say that, I'm sure he was thinking it)

    It would have been nice if Chris asked, but I don't think it is that big of a deal. Maybe you should discuss ahead of time when your parents are coming to town that this would be a nice opportunity for the two of you to have a date?

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  • I would be a little mad that he did not ask you especially since it would be a perfect date night opportunity for you guys.
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  • imageOct08b2bee:
    If you two didn't discuss going together prior to him buying the tickets, then I wouldn't be mad. Especially if it was music that didn't appeal to me. That's just me though.

    I agree with this especially since he asked the guy who got the tickets. It sounds like your more upset about not having a night alone with him then you are about not going to the concert.

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    imageOct08b2bee:
    If you two didn't discuss going together prior to him buying the tickets, then I wouldn't be mad. Especially if it was music that didn't appeal to me. That's just me though.

    I agree with this especially since he asked the guy who got the tickets. It sounds like your more upset about not having a night alone with him then you are about not going to the concert.



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  • I might be a little upset that he didn't think about how a date would be nice. However, you can see the goodness of his gesture so it would be tough for me to stay upset.
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  • i want to say that I wouldn't be upset at all.  But I know that's not true.  I would probably be a little peeved that he didn't even mention it to me before making the plans.  Even if it was more of a "Hey X just gave me tickets to see a blues concert.  I was thinking since I know it's not music you like I would just ask him to go with me. Is that ok?"  A little check in before going ahead and making plans would have been nice.
  • I think it's weird the guy bought Chris two tickets only for Chris to turn around and take him. The guy should have just bought Chris one ticket for his birthday and then one for himself. I wouldn't have been mad in that case but in this case, I'd be a little bummed that I wasn't at least asked - if only for like you said, a night out together. I have done several things I'm not interested in just because Nick likes it and its to spend time together.  

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  • Thanks ladies! Like some of you said, I'd be ok with it I think if he would of mentioned it to me at first and not just told me.  This guy buys Chris stuff all the time, it's so weird. I always tell Chris he has a crush on him.
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    i want to say that I wouldn't be upset at all.  But I know that's not true.  I would probably be a little peeved that he didn't even mention it to me before making the plans.  Even if it was more of a "Hey X just gave me tickets to see a blues concert.  I was thinking since I know it's not music you like I would just ask him to go with me. Is that ok?"  A little check in before going ahead and making plans would have been nice.

    This exactly.  I don't care if Drew goes and does stuff without me, I just want him to at least check in and make sure that I don't mind it or that I didn't have plans in my head already.  We have established in our relationship that we must check in with the other person before we go and do stuff.  It's just a matter of repect for us and it works for us.

    Ok, that kind of makes us sound lame, like we have to ask for permission, but it's different than that.  It's more of a "Hey, this is what I'd like to do, is that ok?" type of thing rather than a "Can I go here with X" type of thing.

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  • imageKupuggie:
    Thanks ladies! Like some of you said, I'd be ok with it I think if he would of mentioned it to me at first and not just told me.  This guy buys Chris stuff all the time, it's so weird. I always tell Chris he has a crush on him.

     

    maybe he does lol.

    You have every right to be upset though. and I lovers you!

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