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So sad...
Many of you know that I have a strained relationship with my younger sister. It all started when my mom died; my dad didn't handle his grief very well, and my mom's family tried taking over raising my younger sister. When my dad settled down, my older sister & I forgave him and we've had a great relationship with him since (better than ever actually) My younger sister has never gotten over this, and has always held a grudge toward us and we often have good/bad periods of time with her.
I was really bad again back in the fall and until Christmas. After my begging and pleading, DH finally got involved and tried to help us work things out. I was so happy b/c he's always had a good relationship with her and I knew this would work. Well, of course it didn't work. We had another episode a couple of weeks ago (that included embellished conversations that never occurred and unnecessary posts on FB) and DH was so mad that he called her out. Since then, she's defriended all of us on FB, doesn't answer her phone, or return calls/texts. And No, she didn't even wish me a happy birthday yesterday.
I know this shouldn't bother me. We've been through enough drama with her that I just want to be done with communication. I understand that she doesn't want to be part of our life. But this is the first time she's never called one of us to wish us a Happy Birthday. It sucks. My dad is completely deflated. He's so upset, he just called me crying. I don't know when I last saw him cry. It really sucks that we lost our mom and we've lost our sister. That's what it feels like; a death in the family. Yesterday sucked as I waited to see if I would get a call/text/email.
Obviously, there's much more to the story than what I had time to type out. A lifetime worth. And a lot of this stems from judgement being passed on people when know one has the right to pass judgement. I know I'm not perfect, but I've tried. And I think now I've given up. Thanks for letting me vent. I'm sure that this kick me in the a$$ later. Someone is bound to find this post, but I just don't care anymore.
Re: So sad...
I am so sorry. We've had a similar situation in our family, and have not spoken with DH's brother for a couple years now. It kills me that it has come to this, since I have such a close relationship with my sister. He hasn't seen us since Shannon was about 4 months old; I don't even think my BIL knows we have a son. DH was always the one trying to mend fences that his brother burned, and he got tired of constantly holding up his arm to extend the olive branch. He really tried to have a relationship with his brother, but he just got taken advantage of and hurt time and time again. He finally decided that enough was enough. There is always so much behind a sad story like this. And, it's never fair.
I just wanted to let you know that I can empathize. If you need to talk, I'm here!
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I'm so sorry you're having to deal with this.
((hugs))