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Friendships...
I was just speaking to my best friend about this, and thought I'd ask you girls.
What kind of friendships do you have now, as an adult? Do you have a couple of really close friends that you stay in touch with - or do you count your spouse as your main friend, with maybe one or two aside from that?
As for me - my friendships have changed as I have gotten older (and admittedly, my patience has gone down) - I find myself in a place where I will not have a friendship with a person where I give 200% and that person gives 2%. It has to be 50/50, for me anyway. Also, I spend the majority of my free time with my husband, he is my absolute best friend. So, when I get together with the girls, I like to really enjoy myself and make it count. 
With that, I have the same best friend from when I was 14 years old. I have about 9 other girlfriends that I am close to and will have over. *Im known to host dinner/dessert parties often, and we get together this way. OR, dinner/movies out.
Besides that, I have a whole bunch of acquaintances that I deal with superficially, but thats it.
My best friend (who is also a SAHW) and I get together once a week, and the rest of my friends and I get together every couple of months. *In fact, Saturday Im hosting a Golden Girls themed dessert party where they will all attend...
But anyway, what about you...?
...here is the deepest secret nobody knows
(here is the root of the root and the bud of the bud
and the sky of the sky of a tree called life; which grows
higher than the soul can hope or mind can hide)
and this is the wonder that's keeping the stars apart
I carry your heart(I carry it in my heart)
Re: Friendships...
I don't have many friends. I keep in touch with a few friends from college, but less and less from high school. I find that the friends I was closest with before are not necessarily my closest friends now. Instead, I have one or two that I wasn't that close with when I was younger, but I have grown really close to them now. Changing dynamics, interests.
Several of my friends when I was younger were not so good to me in later years. I either just naturally grew apart from them or made a conscious decision to ditch them because it was too toxic for me. I am still going through some of that now. Taking constant inventory of who is important to me. I don't need it to be 50-50 at every moment, but I do need to know that my friends would be there for me should I ever need it. And vice versa.
I do wish that I had more close friends in the city. Many of my closest friends live far away, but I think we do a good job of staying in touch and using technology to be social. And I try my best, despite my busy life, to keep up with people I know in the city and maintain social activities. I am finally
Overall, I am at a good place in my life. I feel confident in who I am, for the most part, and appreciate people who are respectful of all that I am and all that I have.
I have moved around so much. I have one or two close friends from everywhere that I have been. I talk to some more regularly than others. I don't feel like I have any besties here. I have a decent amount of friends (all of which I know from different parts of my life), but no real friend group. I miss that at times.
I spend the most time with DH and try to go out with a girlfriend every other week. Otherwise, DH and I do have some couple friends that we play with pretty often. I don't see either one of them without DH, though.