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Realizing you were lied to in your interviews about job ( loaded question)

I accidently posted this in  Politics and current events but I really ment to ask it here.... very stressed right now.

I am a PhD level psychologist in a outpatient day program and how I got this job was, I was working in a school as a psychologist and as many people know districts are cutting positions for child study team type jobs. My job was cut to part time so I kept it until I found this job. It was by chance I was able to get an interview within 2 days of realizing it was time to move on. I interviewed with this program. I was told that my caseload would be working with young adults with Autism and Downs?s syndrome. Which is what I specialized in school, OK PERFECT!. I took a 20k pay cut and do much more work than I ever did in a school as per Medicaid funding. Anyway  now that I am acclimated in the position after being there for a couple months now..... I have one client on the spectrum, other clients have other dxs such as schizophrenia, bipolar, MR/DD etc with criminal records or are non English speakers.... I speak intermediate Spanish, but not comfortable with it in a mental health setting because that gets lost in translation as some situations have required emts and psych emergancy rooms etc.

Do I talk about this to my boss( very supportive lady) that I feel misled about the position and would like the clients I was promised and see what she says?

Do I just suck it up, it?s my fault for being misled and just appreciate I have a job in a tough market

Re: Realizing you were lied to in your interviews about job ( loaded question)

  • TeamCTeamC member
    You sound stressed.  My suggestion is to sleep on it.  It sounds like something happened today that drove you over the edge and now you're posting about everything that's ever bothered you about taking this job, hoping for someone to bring you a quick fix.  Perhaps tomorrow will bring calm and clarity?  I wish you the best, but can't even figure out what the real problem is in this post so I don't even know where to begin.
  • Hi

    I am sorry this job isn't what you were hoping for.  If you feel like your safety is in jeopardy, then definitely speak to your boss about addressing that. 

    It sounds like you feel like you were misled. Is it a possible that the job that you interviewed for just never materialized?  

     I've taken on new roles that didn't match my expectations. I gave it my all but kept my eyes open for new opportunities. 

     Good luck!  K

  • When I first got out of school I took a job in a psych ER. I left 9 months in because I was attacked by a patient, got caught in a riot in a jail, got caught in the middle of gang activity etc, so that was a dangerous job. I got recruited by a school so I stuck with that, it was safer..... One question I asked my now boss, is Have there be situations where there is violence, here.  She said the last time something happened that was violent was 5 years ago, she has been here 30 years. I have been here 4 months, I have broken up 3 fights, dealing with a adult, child like lady getting sexually assulted, preventing a client from hanging himself.  And now I am dealing with a horrible client bullying situation that actually had me crying on my way home. so yeah alot is happeneing on top of personal stuff that is overflowing a bit. At least I made it out of work before getting emotional.
  • I would talk to your boss, but I wouldn't approach it as "I was misled". I would say that you have encountered a lot of cases that you don't specialize in, and that you want to know how to best handle the language situation. See what happens.

    In the meantime, if you're dealing with those kinds of situations at your job, it wouldn't hurt to see what else is out there. There is no commitment involved in looking for other jobs, applying for them, or even interviewing.

    GL. Sounds like you've had a rough week.

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    I would ask her what her definition of violent is.  Remind her what she told you, then tell her what you have encountered.  Is there a chance she has no knowledge of these things?  If she doesn't consider that violent? 

    I would try to do this in a non-confrontational way, as if you are asking a question.

    And I would look for a new job. I could not work in that environment!

    I would also say - you need to look at the school system.  It is niave to think that a large urban school system would only have down syndrome / autistic kids and no violent children, mental illness, children from dysfunctional homes, etc.  Next time, seek out school systems that are known for catering to your specialty.  People know what towns have the best programs for autistic kids, special ed, etc.

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