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cant stop thinking....
so i guess this is a little more of a vent then anything. But this past weekend i just cant go about my day and stop letting my mind run way.
We have almost had our house for 2 years now and i feel like we have not done anything, but when i make a list in my head we have done a lot and to top it off we planned a wedding for 1 1/2 years of the time we have been here. so a lot of money was going to the instead of home improvement stuff.
then my mind cant just give up thinking about babies. i have baby fever like crazy, i really wanna have one and i keep thinking that we should stick to my plan of waiting till next summer as one of our two cars will be paid off next fall and i wont have a mis. loan payment either. and we will be much better off if we wait. but then on the other hand we can make it work now too. I also have this feeling like i am always going to have a reason why we should wait.
i cant just get a time that any of these thoughts arent just running through my head. my dh thinks that we should just give up the bc this summer and see what happens, and that we can make anything work. and that i am over thinking everything to much.
do you girls seem to think this much about anything or do i need medication?
Re: cant stop thinking....
If you need medication then, so do I. I'm stuck with the same racing thoughts about home improvements, getting this condo listed and finding a new home. DH and I talk about it incessantly and have made a lot of progress but, the to-do list seems never ending.
As for baby fever, only you and your DH will know when is the right time for you. I see the point of waiting to have less expenses but, on the other hand, there is never a truly perfect time to have a baby. If you can swing it now, as you stated, then that's something to look at. If you look for a reason to wait, there will always be one. Hang in there!
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Ditto....so much to do around the house, baby fever setting in again....blah blah blah. I'm right there with you.
About the baby thing.....if you wait to be financially ready, it will never happen. You will never feel like you are financially ready. If you think you could swing it now, that's probably good enough. Be sure you are ready for a baby in every other aspect though....but it sounds like you are.
House: it will never feel done I guess. That's what everyone keeps telling me.
I can't help about the house part...we rent a house from my mother but we don't get full reign to do what we would like and are itching to find something of our own.
However, pps are correct....I think there is no "ready" time to have a baby...if you wait, you never now what could happen and you could be putting pressure on yourselves to have one and then that could cause issues. I would have loved to have waited to have our daughter, to have enjoyed life as Mr. and Mrs., but I got pregnant on our mini-moon (three days after getting married). There is no "right" time. But, in the end, I wouldn't change a thing!
i was in the same position as you when i first got married in july. i was on the fence about having a baby. i wasnt sure if we were ready (money wise) to have a baby. i wanted to wait till we had a house and some more of my student loans were paid off but on the other hand i had EXTREME baby fever. My dh and i sat down and talked about how we were feeling. we came to the conclusion that there is no "perfect time" we had good jobs, a nice savings, were emotionally ready.
to prove that life throws you curve balls and you cant plan everything:
my dh and i lost our jobs last month due to budget cuts. i am about 4 months pregnant. this experience really opened my eyes that in life you cant plan for everything and you take things as they come and get through it. although things are looking more positive now, we are saving and getting through it even with the baby coming. although our income is going to cut in half next year, i wouldnt trade what i have right now with anything in the world. i love that next year i will have time to be at home with the baby. i love the little "nook" we are creating in our 1 bedroom condo... and everything else will happen in time...
you really need to sit and talk to your husband and about what you want. everything else will just fall into place.
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