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Parent's marriage
My mother and stepfather have been married for almost 11 years. They had a long distance marriage for 4 of those years and started living together about 6 years ago. My stepfather is apparently very unhappy and has expressed this to my mother several times in the past 3 years. He has reached out to my sister to vent. Now, my sister is concerned about my mom. She thinks my mom is not living in reality and wants us to get together and try to talk her into moving back home. I told her it's none of our business and to stay out of it. They are adults and need to deal with their marriage. My stepfather was just venting which I think he needed. He understands he has to deal with this himself. My sister's concern is that my mom lives in another country and doesn't have any means to support herself. I told her that's our mother's responsibility. She is an adult. My sister became frustrated and didn't want to talk to me any longer. I can tell she is worried. I just think we need to butt out. My mom can be a very difficult person to deal with and I know no matter what we may say, she will not listen.
Should I feel guilty for not being more concerned?
Re: Parent's marriage
I am with you.
Why do you think your sister is so invested in the situation?
if it's not your marriage STAY OUT OF IT!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
and your sister should have enough sense that, when SF calls, she tells him it's none of her business and doesn't get involved either. he should NOT be venting to his wife's daughter. that's completely inapporpriate.
no excuse!!! your mom can easily figure out to pick up the phone and call oneo f you if the time comes. i can understand, to a degree, what he was doing as well but really-it's none of your or your sisters business you know what I mean?
he needs to talk to your mom-not your sister.
i think you're right by staying out of it.