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New and advice
Hi ladies,
I've been a lurker for sometime and was wondering if anyone could give me some advice on being sexy? I know this sounds like a crazy question, but growing up I was always the "cute" one...the one guys wanted to be friends with, but not date. I'm also very small chested, so I feel like when it comes time to be sexy, I feel very self-conscience. I want to become more sexy...I know it would surprise my husband, but I just have no idea where to start. Any advice? Thank you!
Re: New and advice
Honey, sexy is mostly attitude and very little about your physical assets. There are a lot of women with all of the pieces and parts that are labelled "sexy" but can't work it to save their lives.
First thing to realize, you have the p*ssy. Men want it, you control their access. That puts you in control.
Have you had lovers before? What did they tell you was sexy about you? Are you still friends with them? If so, can you call them and ask what are your three most "sexy" features -- smile, sassy little hip shake, flirty eyes? I would put money on the fact that they will each have liked something different about you, giving you a good list of things to play up about yourself.
If your H wanted a woman with big bazooms, he'd have married one. Not all guys are breast men.:)
Self confidence is sexy. Perhaps you came from a household where women were taught to be more laid back and demure; nothing wrong with that at all.
Hi there! I don't have much advice, because I struggle with the same issue. I just wanted to let you know you are not alone at all. I try and use lengerie and that sometimes helps me to feel more sexy. Also, fun dancing type music. I have only been married almost 10 months and really wish I felt more sexy so I could try and turn the hubbie on more. I am very petite and look more like a 13 yr old then a married adult woman!
Like I said, not much advice but sometimes it just nice to know your not alone!
Hope you find your inner sexiness soon!!!
Confidence is sexy. I recommend spending time naked, by yourself, preferrably in front of a mirror. Learn to love and feel comfortable and confident about your body and that will make you feel sexy.
Obviously, sexy lingerie never hurts. Go to a store like Victoria's Secret and get something that's just a little bit outside of your comfort zone (not too much that you feel uncomfortable but don't get those night t-shirts or anything cutesy).
Also, try talking to your DH about sex - what you both like the other to do, say, wear, whatever. When I talk to my SO about something he enjoys I like doing it even more and feel sexier while doing it, and I know he feels the same way.
Good luck!