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How would you feel?
My BIL is studying psychology. He is a super nice guy and I know he is very excited about what he is learning and he forwards articles that he thinks are "helpful" to us. I asked him to stop sending me parenting stuff, it just feels like he is saying "hey, you need this because you are doing something wrong". Then he sent some depression thing and my DH actually got a little up in arms. He then said it must have triggered something. It's like you can't win, if you get defensive, you must be the person that needs it the most.
So would you just take it in stride and figure it was coming from a place of good intention, or would it bug you? I can't quite explain it. It's like my brother used to say jokingly his favorite expression was "that's part of your problem..". Gee, I didn't know i had such problems.
Re: How would you feel?
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Ha! Particularly ones from Snopes.com that are totally wrong but people believe. Awesome sauce.
Well, Passanie, yours doesn't really count. You ARE part of the Liberal Media And Its Agenda.
ETA that yes, that is annoying, and I'd try to find some articles about the dangers of offering unsolicited advice that I'd send right back to him.
I would be VERY unhappy...especially after you've already asked.
I asked him to stop sending me the parenting stuff but now he sent this depression thing. I hate when people act all high and mighty, like "Oh I just thought it might be helpful" like when someone tells you you're too skinny/too fat/too this too that, etc. It's judgmental. Anyway, it's touchy because he lives with us. Sigh. Thanks for at least validating my annoyance.
I would send really obnoxious articles back to him for every one that he sends you. They would consist mostly of erectile dysfunction etc.
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Yes, it would bother me. A lot. That's totally inappropriate. Part of studying psychology, I would hope, would be to teach students when and how it's suitable to offer their expertise. You're a doctor; you don't go around inspecting and pushing treatment on your family members. You guys aren't his patients, and you've already asked him to stop. He needs to listen, and his belief that you being "defensive" proves him right is not at all relevant. He needs to understand that his behavior, despite what his intentions are, has a detrimental impact on your relationship with him.
You've asked nicely. Maybe now it's time to get more firm. I would not get sucked into debates on whether his "diagnosis" is right or wrong; I would focus on the fact that you're not interested in these articles, you've asked him to stop, and his refusal to listen is disrespectful and irritating. If he still doesn't listen, I suggest sending him periodic emails about topics that offend/don't interest him, perhaps a newsletter from this museum?
Good luck!
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