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Our tech team has launched updates to The Nest today. As a result of these updates, members of the Nest Community will need to change their password in order to continue participating in the community. In addition, The Nest community member's avatars will be replaced with generic default avatars. If you wish to revert to your original avatar, you will need to re-upload it via The Nest.
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Before Baby Poll
What was/is on your "to do before baby" list (if you had/have one)? For instance: travel to a certain part of the world, go skydiving, learn how to scuba dive, etc.
Was there anything you really wanted to do but didn't get the chance?
Anything you did that you feel you could have done without?
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Re: Before Baby Poll
Finish PhD!
Otherwise, just live fully and enjoy the spontaneity of pre-baby life...
Yeah "someday" used to feel so distant. Not so much anymore. But I'm not quite there yet. *sigh*
Maybe we'll just keep collecting dogs. :-)
We're considering a move to Arizona pending a job offer for H. It would be a great opportunity for him and I can easily transfer as my company has a branch in Phoenix. It's scary to think about, but we're still young and are able to move rather easily since we don't have kids yet (minus renting our TH here). We figure that it would be a great experience, whether we stay there permanently or not.
We also love to travel, so if we don't move, we'll be planning a trip for next winter for sure. I would love to go back to Europe sometime too.
Totally in the same boat as Kiz and Dawn here. And add to it ... I'm 34 ...
I keep picturing a month-long vacation wandering through Europe with no real plans other than to enjoy life and drink lots of wine. Definitely not kid-friendly traveling.
And I worry that we'll feel poor after kids, so I want to do all the expensive house things first. Not that we'll actually *be* poor if we become parents, but kids are expensive! We're not used to those costs.
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1) get out of our current tiny condo into a proper house - and be there long enough to enjoy the space and make it "home" before inviting in the chaos of a baby.
2) decide where we want that house to be. I want here (MN), DH wants anywhere BUT here. It is an ongoing debate . . .
3) One last hurrah big trip. Since we'll always be going back to the UK and Europe, that continent isn't a priority, but I'd like to go to NZ or OZ - maybe southern Africa.
4) Convince DH that kids do not mean the end of life as we know it. He's on the fence right now. If he could wait another 10 years, he'd be fine, but as I just turned 32, my clock is ticking.
Hard to believe "our class" of knotties has been married 3-4 years already. I may need to get a life outside the nest...
What was/is on your "to do before baby" list (if you had/have one)? Didn't really have one thing. I just wanted to feel comfortable in our situation before we started trying.
Anything you really wanted to do but didn't get the chance? Not for me. but I wish DH would have started school earlier. But we decided that we are both ok with the current situation.
Anything you did that you feel you could have done without? Our last trip to Mexico. I wish I would have used the money for home repairs instead!
There was nothing I felt like we had to do before we had Carly, but now that we have her, these are the things I wish we would have done:
*Traveled more. We are looking forward to traveling with her, so it's not that big of deal, but I wish we would have at least gone one place (preferably tropical) where we could have had some alone time.
*Really cherished being able to be spontaneous.
*I would have slept in as much as possible!! 7:00am is sleeping in these days!
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i supposed i would have had to have PLANNED to get pregnant, which i did not.
: )
i'm glad i had my son when i did and have no regrets. i'll be an empty nester at 41 (still so young!) and will have the rest of my life ahead of me without kids at home. that sounds excellent. now to just get lars to buy into the no more kids idea...
There really isn't anything I wanted to do prior to baby that I don't feel I can't do now...part of that may be my reasoning for only having one as well.
I can still skydive (my friend did it with two kids and was quite possibly pregnant with her 3rd when she did it), white water raft, camp, fish, hike, ski, and I certainly travel with him. I traveled with him in utero, and out and we're leaving Saturday for Colorado on a road trip.
I guess I went into parenthood with the notion that if I didn't feel like I could do it with him here then we shouldn't have kids...but if we planned on travelling and we saw him with us then we might as well do it. And we did and he's gone everywhere with us, including 4-wheeling already.
This is my attitude exactly. I don't want to be the couple whose world comes to a halt because they have kids. We want to adopt in the next year or so and I can't wait to share all the thing we love doing with a child. And if we end up adopting from the foster system, it will be an adventure learning what our child enjoys and participating with them.
Tired after a long morning of hiking and swimming.
Haha it is sad isn't it? I'm on the same boat as you kiz and sjb....no babies in me and dh's near future...or maybe ever.
I'm in the same boat as all of you with this though....and I'm 31...32 in August...
What was/is on your "to do before baby" list (if you had/have one)? For instance: travel to a certain part of the world, go skydiving, learn how to scuba dive, etc.
We wanted to go on several vacations and save up money in addition to our savings for the baby. Thankfully we were able to do both.
Was there anything you really wanted to do but didn't get the chance?
Make the career switch from my current job to be a Marriage and Family Therapist. I have my Masters, but have not made the career switch yet.
Anything you did that you feel you could have done without?
Nope.
We want to get some debt payed off which we've done a pretty good job doing. I also want to finish my Masters which I am doing this summer (can't wait to be done)!!!
Even though we could have allocated the money elsewhere, we went to Mexico last month. It was the best decision ever. We have been sooooo busy that it was just what we needed to recharge!
Other than that we pretty much live a lifestyle where a baby could easily fit in.
Mine was:
1) Finish Masters
2) Buy House
3) Have stable jobs w/good insurance
4) Have a healthy savings account
The house was bought 4 years ago, the Masters was finished 2 years ago, and the savings account has been in relatively good shape for the past 2 years......but the job thing....not so much. DH JUST got a really fantastic job with awesome benefits, but I am still unable to find a full time job in my field.
That said, this time of "waiting for the perfect time" has all gone out the window. We are moving into a smaller apartment, accross the country, I won't have a job when we get there, but we feel like it is the right time for us to start our family. I guess that despite our to-do list, we just kind of knew when the "right time" was.
2.3.11: Started TTC
2.8.12:Initial b/w - Normal
3.7.12:HSG - Normal
3.8.12:S/A - Normal
Cycle #12/Month #15 - 50mg.Clomid CD5-CD9 - BFN
4.24.12: RE appointment - DX Unexplained IF
7.12 - 9.12: TTA
10.12 - 1.13: TTC Naturally
February 2013 - IUI #1 w/100 mg Clomid - 5 mil.post-wash: BFFN
March 2013 - IUI #2 w/100 mg Clomid & Trigger - ?? MY BLOG