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Send a gift or not?
I've been invited to a local bridal shower for the fiancee of H's good friend. I've only met her once so I don't know her that well. I can't go to the shower and I was wondering if I should still send a gift or not. The shower is Sat 4/16, so if I sent her something off her Target registry, she'd probably get it right before her party. I don't know which address her registry gifts are going to, though. I believe she currently lives in GA but the shower is at her MIL's house in Tampa. I guess that if I sent a Target gift, it would go to her GA location and maybe she'd bring it to the shower in Tampa?
Sidenote though- H's cousin just had a bridal shower in S FL that I didn't go to and I did send her a gift off her registry. The gift went to her home, and I was hoping she'd bring it to her shower to open, but I heard that she didn't, she opened it at her house and left it there. Oh well, I guess that's ok. I didn't have a bridal shower so I'm not sure how most people do it, but I would have saved it for my shower.
Anyway- Since I can't go to her shower, do I still really need to send a gift to H's friend's fiancee, whom I don't know well at all? Although H is a groomsmen, and she's been around H many times. And if I do send a gift, should I just order it from her registry and not worry about it? Or maybe send a card and gift card to her MIL's house? But I don't want to trust the MIL to actually deliver it to her...
Sorry so long, thanks girls 
Re: Send a gift or not?
Ditto.
I also think it's weird to bring gifts that were sent to your home before the shower to the shower itself to open them- particularly if you are having the shower in different city. Thus, I think your best approach is to just spend a little more on the wedding gift.
Then again, I also didn't have a bridal shower so I'm no expert.
I think you're fine, I'm probably just a weirdo about it :P I definitely didn't think MH's cousin was rude for doing it, but I'd paid extra to have it gift wrapped and all that, so I'd just figured she'd take it to the shower and open it there, especially because my MIL was at the shower, so his cousin could have been like "oh, MIL, this one's from your DIL!" But it's all good, I didn't really care.
I did the same thing Blossom. We got some very large gifts (dinnerware, vacuum, pots/pans) and there was no way I was going to haul that stuff to the restaurant where my bridal shower was. I also wanted to make sure I wrote everything down as it was received so I could get started on my TY cards.
OP - I would order online and have the gift delivered or get a nicer wedding gift.
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I opened them right away too!
Thanks all!
So just want to make sure, if you were this girl, you would NOT think it rude if I could not attend your shower and did not send you a shower gift separately, right?
Obviously if she was a really good friend I would send her something but otherwise, I like everyone's idea about just sending a nicer wedding gift.
I feel like I'm being so needy today with all my posts
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If I was the bride, I wouldn't bring the unopened gifts to the shower. Like pps said, I opened them as they came in & sent out thank yous immediately. I didn't want them to think the gift came late.
Since we got married in FL, I was praying that no one brought a boxed gift to the wedding. We already had enough luggage to begin with since we were leaving on our honeymoon from FL too. I was dreading trying to figure out how to get it all home.
I like the idea of getting them an extra nice wedding gift.