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Stepmoms?
Are there any others? Yes I am now a stepmom (sounds sooo strange!) to a soon to be 12 yr old and soon to be 14 yr old. They do not live WITH us or even near us for that matter. They live in OK with their mom, but we will be having them up here this summer again.
Re: Stepmoms?
I am a step-mother also. Welcome to the club LOL
My step-son is 10. Both DH and I came with one child and our sons are 5 months apart in age we then had one together. We do see my step-son every week at least for an overnight and then every other week for a full weekend. We also get three weeks in the summer with him. He is local within the same school district so we do get to see a lot of school functions and such. Its sometimes hard to find your nitch/place as their step-mother, but it will come with time and fall into place nicely.
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First....love love the siggy photo!
Second, I am a step mom to an 11 year old who I have known since he was 4. We live in the same town so we have a set "visitation" schedule (sorry, I really just hate that word ... as parents you shouldn't have to "visit" your child) and also see him at school and sporting events.
I agree with pp, it is hard to find your niche and even as he is older, it is a different niche you have to find.
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I'm a stepmom too. (even though I don't like that word) But my case is a little different. My little stepson lost his mom when he was just a baby. I met him when he was 3 years old, he is now 6 1/2! I consider him my son. I love him and treat him as if he were mine. The day he called me "mommy", my heart melted.
I have no stepkids but I have had a stepmother since I was 6. In the past 22 years we have just basically learned to deal with each other.
Take it easy, try not to buy their affection with materialistic things and also try not to act as though you know more than the biological parents.
Kids in these situations can feel that their biological parent chooses the step parent over the them. Example: when the kids used to come visit for the summer it was dad doing what they asked/wanted to do and now that youre in the picture you are calling the shots.
Its not easy on the kid(s) or the new step parents but it can work.
Thanks Kate. I definitely do not try to overstep any of those boundaries. I make sure when the oldest one tries to get her way with me that I tell her, we need to ask her father first before getting anything or doing anything AND sometimes her mother since she is now living there.
We actually make sure we talk about what we are going to do with them when they are here, especially when last summer, he must have been promising things we couldn't afford. I had to tell him, you cannot say yea we are going to do this or that because your youngest remembers everything and holds you to it. So now we check to see what we can afford to do and plan accordingly.
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