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Weigh In Here (opinions not weight loss)

I just got off the phone with my mom, who lives in TX.

She has been trying to get me to move there since they did in 2008. I always said "No-end of story" Our whole lives are here. Well now that she knows were uprooting to Columbus for work and school she is trying even harder to get us to move there. So much so that she is sending me job listing emails, she called me to tell me she can book a flight for Wednesday and my dad called to tell me I can use his truck while Im down there to get to/from interviews. As much as I miss my family and love Texas (Im a cowgirl at heart) and the weather is amazing; I dont know if I can just move across the country. I want to and I dont. H is no help, he tells me he will do whatever I want, he just wants out of here.

Should I even consider? Why? Why not?

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Re: Weigh In Here (opinions not weight loss)

  • A list of pros & cons would good & helpful.  I don't know why you should stay or leave. Good luck though.. It's a tough decision.
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  • IMO moving you should really consider where you are going to move and not just move to move.  I think (like Shmoozer suggested) you should make a list of pros and cons together with your dh and then the two of you really talk it over. 
  • I would love to live closer to my mom and family.  But the area they live in isn't really diverse in job opportunities.  I'm sure I'd be able to eventually find a job as a pharmacy tech, but I know H would have a harder time with security. 

    Really consider job opportunities for both of you.  The cost of living down there, along with the cost of moving everything that distance. 

     I'm not trying to talk you out of it, just giving you and your H to consider. 

  • This is basically my problem, I know the pay rate for my position, and like it. I know the schools in Columbus and am already accepted. If we move down there its like walking into a paper bag.  I think Im looking for a reason not to, other than "I dont want to" because I do. I miss my brother like crazy and I want to be with them, I just dont want to move. The cost of the truck alone is like $1200 without gas, then there are all the other moving costs. Im on the verge of being really happy, I dont want to be back at square one again. I just cant justify putting money before family and I feel greedy to think I feel I will be happy once Im in a decent paying job and in school for hygiene.

    I would be truly happy if: I can move to Columbus, work and go to school and once I have a fully educated career under my belt, move down there to be with them. Then I will be ready to buy a house, have babies and what not.

    Basically  I am not ready to settle down and I equate moving to be with them settling down. I want to sow my wild oats.

    Thanks for listening girls! You are amazing, Im just trying to sort my thoughts.

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  • sure! why not? you can always move back. but i would check the economy down there first and also make sure it's an area that you're really excited about instead of just moving for the sake of moving or becsuse your mom wants you too. but in general now is the time when you are young to take risks.
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  • I completely uprooted myself and moved to Louisiana so I am one of those people that if you don't have anything holding you back go for it.

    Where at in TX?

    I'm assuming a semi big city and you'll most likely have many more oppurtunities for jobs and schooling wouldn't be an issue either.

    You don't have a house to sell, no children to uproot and if your H is down then I would seriously consider it especially if your parents are willing to book a flight and let you use their truck for interviews.

    The weather is great in TX.  The biggest thing you need to think of is what oppurtunities will you have in OH vs TX.  Not only jobs and school but restaurants things to do schools for little ones when that happens etc.

    I say though before kids I would do a lot of stuff because its much harder then.

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    I completely uprooted myself and moved to Louisiana so I am one of those people that if you don't have anything holding you back go for it.

    Where at in TX?

    I'm assuming a semi big city and you'll most likely have many more oppurtunities for jobs and schooling wouldn't be an issue either.

    You don't have a house to sell, no children to uproot and if your H is down then I would seriously consider it especially if your parents are willing to book a flight and let you use their truck for interviews.

    The weather is great in TX.  The biggest thing you need to think of is what oppurtunities will you have in OH vs TX.  Not only jobs and school but restaurants things to do schools for little ones when that happens etc.

    I say though before kids I would do a lot of stuff because its much harder then.

    I like this!

    The only thing I could come up with is: ME!!!!! I'm in TX...but then again TX is BIG and I live way down south, and I imagine you are moving somewhere to the north or mid TX.  By the way, they just opened this dental office here and I passed through it the other day and thought of you...

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