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Immature foreplay
I have known my husband since we were 12; dating since we were 18, and married for almost 2 years now (we are both 25) and he still tries to get me in the mood in the same matters as when we were younger. I told him I want more romance and foreplay and he acts like he is 15 and makes immature comments like when talking about sex he goes, "..I wanted to you know...do you", or when I ask for foreplay he just grabs my chest or lights candles... I have talked to him about trying to be more mature verbally, but what can I do to help him be more mature all around? I know we are still young, but its just not working for me.
Thanks, M
Re: Immature foreplay
You may have to come right out and tell him exactly what you want as it doesn't appear that he has any clue about the varied methods of foreplay. Be extremely specific, as in, "I would like you to...." You may have to take his hand and show him exactly how you want it done. Just telling him you want more foreplay isn't enough information. It's like if you asked him what he wanted for dinner and he answered "food."
If that doesn't work and he reverts to his old tactics, don't reward bad foreplay with sex. Why should he change if what he's doing gets the result he wants? When he does something immature that you don't like, tell him it turns you off and now you're not in the mood for sex. I can pretty much guarantee it will be a motivator for him to change.
hhmm.. my advice, when it comes to my man, if i want something i must do it first and lead by example. if you want more dirty talk, start by finding some movies that you like with scenes of things you want to do. dont make it akward watching with him, poking him, saying, "see thats what i'm talkin about".... leave them for him to watch first, on his own. then watch them together
you could also lead the way with the naughti-ness, if you want him to touch you in a certain place- take his hand and put it were you want. grab his junk and tell him you want to ! lol not to be vulgar.. but i think you get it. once you open the door for him to explore and grow, he will and he'll LOVE you even more for it!
have you tried giving him what your asking for? be romantic with him so that he has an example to follow. he may just not be able to think of what to say/do maybe instead of telling him to be more verbally mature instead suggest something for him to say i.e. tell him that instead of saying 'i want to do you' he could say 'i want to tear all your clothes off later' or 'i want to bend you over the _____ and lick your ______'
I have learned with man they dont pick up the hints you just have to come out and be completly rated R with him and tell him everything you wanna try and do.. With the rated R words not PG-13 lol