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I don't have the "nesting" bug
I think a lot of it comes from the fact that our situation around the time of birth and the first few weeks afterward are going to be so in limbo, but I have absolutely zero urge to nest for this child, and I'm starting to feel a bit guilty about it.
As we'll be heading back up to Maine in the weeks just before the birth (with the majority of our worldly possessions heading to Louisiana for storage), and staying there until 6 or so weeks after, there just doesn't seem to be a point to me. Kyle and I have already figured out the gear that we are going to need to get us through (Pack n' Play, stroller/car seat, portable changing table, etc.), we don't feel any rush to really purchase anything. Since we're not going to be in the apartment we're in now, or the house we'll be in this summer, we're not going to bother purchasing any nursery furniture until we get to LA, and we've registered for what we want so if someone ends up gifting us something, we'll just have it shipped down w/ the rest of our stuff (my shower will be just before we pack up our place, convenient!).
I don't know, I guess it's more so self-enduced from reading posts on the national boards about women who are barely into 2nd tri and already have a fully outfitted nursey, but I just don't feel that way. I'm over the moon for this child, and can't wait to spend every minute with them, but the big ticket stuff (at least for a while) seems somewhat irrlelvant to me- does that make sense? I guess considering this child may not even have a nursery until 2-3 months after birth makes it easy to not go nuts.
Don't get me wrong, I'd love to have a nursery project room to be working on, but with our circumstances being what they are, I'm trying to focus on the bigger picture. It's hard too having Kyle gone 80% of the time, but I know patience will pay off as he's been approved to take the entire summer off so we can just be together as a family (which is the best baby gift ever IMO). I guess I feel a little bit like I'm missing a bit part of the preparations, which is a bummer, but then I feel guilty for not wanting it more- does that make sense???
Ok, ramblings over now- I'm pretty sure this is totally confusing, but I've been feeling this way for the past week or so and really wanted to get it out there. Thanks for the therapy, I feel better just saying it "out loud".
The aim of life is to live, and to live means to be aware; joyously, drunkenly, serenely, divinely aware. -Henry Miller
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Re: I don't have the "nesting" bug
I don't think I ever really "nested." I had a plan for the nursery, and we got around to it and it was fun, but it was also pretty mellow. We kept the paint color the same in the room and just added some wall accents. We struggled to find a rug. We assembled the crib and put on some sheets. We hung the clock my mom got us. And, um, that was it.
I never did any crazy cleaning, shopping, or decorating. And I was in the same place the whole time with no plans to move. James was perfectly happy and loved when he arrived, so I don't think he minded that I didn't go nuts with anything!
You aren't out of the scope of normal, or if you are, you've got good company in Crazy Town with me.
The tri-boards and the bump in general make me crazy! I don't understand why everyone freaks out so much... I'm such a last minute person and also somewhat superstitious. I'm not planning on washing the baby clothes until the baby's born and don't really see how you prepare any differently for a boy vs a girl. I've been going on a rant all week about how crazy it drives me when people HAVE to know about the sex and how they HAVE to know to plan.
I think your focus is on having your family together and in the end, that's all that is important. What color the walls are or any of that stuff is so frivolous. I'm giving you a big round of applause!
(we're most likely finding out because DH is being a complete freak about knowing.... I still don't understand the big deal.).
Don't worry, besides we all know about those boards
I didn't Nest. Part of it was b/c I didn't know the sex, part of it was I was living in a temp. apartment, and part of it was all the hospitalizations. But, in the end, I really just didn't feel in to it. I felt bad, especially after she was born, that I hadn't "nested" for her, but I got plenty of nesting done (and still do) after she was born. I'm such a type A person, but I think for me it was better not to nest. It actually allowed me to let go and I think helped me in my situation. In the end, it all gets done and you realize you don't need much to bring a baby home
Thanks ladies, I really appreciate the support! After reading through my bumbling post again, I think it really just boils down to (for me at least) I can't fathom how some soon-to-be parents go completely out of control with their nurseries and have to have everything perfect and whatnot. I know the majority of national board Bumpies are bat sh!t, but sometimes you just can help but to get sucked into their posts (guilty pleasure???). Since we're not finding out the sex, I feel even less in a rush to nest until we get to meet our little babe, even if our living circumstances were different. I feel like so many people go overboard and don't allow this little person to come along and declare their own personality somewhat. Jen, I think you nailed it with the thought that ours will be concentrated on "family nesting" as opposed to furniture and the like, and I couldn't be happier about that!
So thanks again for making me feel less crazy- I should know by now that if I'm looking for rational advice/support from like minded people I should just come to the Maine board!
The aim of life is to live, and to live means to be aware; joyously, drunkenly, serenely, divinely aware. -Henry Miller
http://cookthehumbletable.blogspot.com/
This was awesome! Every pregnancy is different, so who cares what everyone else is doing! you = normal :-)
Hahaha, I love it! This just made my morning
The aim of life is to live, and to live means to be aware; joyously, drunkenly, serenely, divinely aware. -Henry Miller
http://cookthehumbletable.blogspot.com/