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Our tech team has launched updates to The Nest today. As a result of these updates, members of the Nest Community will need to change their password in order to continue participating in the community. In addition, The Nest community member's avatars will be replaced with generic default avatars. If you wish to revert to your original avatar, you will need to re-upload it via The Nest.
If you have questions about this, please email help@theknot.com.
Thank you.
Note: This only affects The Nest's community members and will not affect members on The Bump or The Knot.
How did you find your mentor?
I am really looking for a mentor. Did you just ask someone you admired or how did that work out?
Also, would this be weird?
My brother's ex-wife was my mentor before when they were together. Of course after the divorce we lost touch. But now she works in the same University I do and has great advice. They were married for 4 years and have been divorced for 6+. They had no kids. And I dont intend on telling my brother if she is my mentor. I know that it would irk him.
Re: How did you find your mentor?
I enrolled in formal corporate mentoring programs, first as a mentee, then later as a mentor. In other cases, I just worked on developing a relationship with those I wanted to emulate. And in my latest job, I looked to former colleagues with connections that were able to hook me up with a diverse set of mentors who had backgrounds similar to mine. In only one case have I actually said "I would like to come to you for some mentoring advice." Usually I just schedule time on their calendars, or go to coffee or lunch with them to get the relationship going and maintain it.
I don't think there's anything wrong with using your ex-SIL as a mentor-you already have something in common (for better or worse), and she's in a position to give you advice and works in your area of expertise. At a minimum you should maintain a professional networking connection (and your brother should be okay with this b/c it's professional, not personal) and maybe mentoring too if you feel like you could trust her advice.
I am a mentee in a formal mentorship program at my company. However I also have several informal mentors, none of whom may even know that I consider them a mentor! I use them as a resource for different sorts of issues.
Why not just ask if you can meet over coffee so that you can ask their thoughts on a few issues/projects on which you are currently working? Oh, and don't ask if you can "pick their brain" - negative connotations, I guess. If the conversation goes well, ask them if you might call on them again in the future to ask their advice.
It isn't a formal process, but it is mentorship.