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soooo mad right now... (long)

At DH's work.

He caught the bug I had.  He has thrown up 15 times so far tonight (he counted, he's not exaggerating) and they will NOT let him go home because they're short staffed.  I feel so bad for him.  I want him to just leave.

Speaking of his work being short staffed, they're constantly calling for mandatory overtime.  He has to volunteer or he gets ordered.  So, the only two "family days" we get, he has to volunteer for overtime so he doesn't get ordered at a time I have to work.  He had a dentist appointment and couldn't volunteer this Friday, so they made him stay until 4am instead of midnight.  Because he had to sleep some, we were late to his nana's 90th birthday.  Last month, there wasn't any overtime available for the times DH had available.  At 11:30pm, they ordered him to stay and work.  He said he couldn't because the next day he had to take care of Adrian and it was too late to get childcare.  So you know what they did? They wrote him up because he refused orders.  Three write ups and you may lose your job.

This is the same place that refused our last vacation time.  Then DH put in for the next week and they approved Tues, Wed, Fri, Sat.  Well, how on earth can we go anywhere when he had to work Thursday? 

So, because this place is NOT conducive to having a family, DH has been looking elsewhere...with no luck. He finally had an in at one place and they just about promised him the job.  Then they had a freeze on funds and had to freeze the hiring process. I just asked to flex my hours down by a day (it will take some time to get there) because we NEED some family time.

Just this weekend, DH decided to look into going back to cooking (he did this for 15 years prior to his current job). There's an opening where he used to work, they want him back.  All are excited.  Come back with the offer- less money, less hours, increase cost to him for benefits.  Pair that with the $$ I'm losing by reducing my hours, we'll be in the hole each month unless one of us gets another job.

DH's spirits are low.  Plus he's sick.  He could really use some T&P.  Particularly tomorrow, as he's on baby duty when I'm at work.   

Thanks for letting me get that off my chest.  I just needed to tell someone.

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  • WHAAATT?? That is horrible and complete BS. I am so mad for you. What does he do again?
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  • Ugh WTF?! I was reading somewhere the other day that a lot of employers are really taking advantage of employees right now because it's an "employers market" and new jobs are far and few between they know they can take advantage of people. I hope your dh finds something soon! Good thing I would think is that Portland area has tons of restaurants so hopefully he can find someplace cooking again.
  • That is complete BS, especially when you are sick.  I hope that he can find another job soon where he isn't taken advantage of like that.
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  • I hope he feels better! That sounds like an awful work environment. I hope things work out for you!
  • I can empathize with you.  Before DH got his transfer a month ago, he was working all kinds of mandatory overtime, usually 13 hour days 6 days a week, and we hardly saw each other.  If I wasn't a SAHM, it would have been a whole lot harder to deal with. 

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  • His work SUCKS, WTF is wrong with them!!! Grrr. This is me, making supportive noises, shaking my fist at your DH's work. 

    Sending you guys good vibes/T&Ps!!!  

  • I'm so sorry you and DH are dealing with this- it sounds completely rediculous and unfair! Keeping my fingers crossed and sending good vibes that you are able to find a solution soon!

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  • oh, my gosh...I don't even know what to say!  what an awful situation they have their employees in...T&Ps to you both...hope he feels better soon and a better opportunity comes his way
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  • What an absolutely awful situation!  I'm so sorry YH is sick and dealing with long-term job stress.  I can't imagine that all their practices are legal but it would probably be too costly, time-consuming and scary to take that battle on.  I will cross my fingers that a new job comes along soon! 

  • That sucks. Sadly, if his current job is what you said he wanted to do a while back, then it will never change. I've worked in that field and and now a lot of people who were in that section and it sucks and they take advantage of you until you're just about beaten. Poor budget, poor management, and overall not a great working environment :( Hope something works out for you two in the long run, and right now that he feels better, poor guy!
  • That makes me so angry!!!!  Sending lots of T&P that your H finds a great new job. 
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  • Wow. there's sick and then there is sick. Staying at work after throwing up, not cool. Being forced to stay at work after throwing up 15 times, unacceptable. I am pretty sure life isn't even that tough in the Army.
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  • I'm sending tons of good job-hunting vibes his way.

    And also sending some "I hope he infects his bosses" vibes as well-- just for General Purpose. 

    Dillholes.

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  • Wow. Wow wow wow. That's just insane. I'm so mad on your behalf and I 2nd what Daniele said, I hope he gets his bosses sick too. Sending all kinds of finding a new job vibe his way!
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