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I don't believe in PMS...
I always thought it was an excuse to be a b*tch or for people to get out of gym class. It always irritated the sh!t out of me when my brother would say I was being a beotch because "I must be on my period." Sure there are physical symptoms, but are mood swings hormonal or are some people just bitchy by nature.
I ask this in all seriousness because since having children, I definitely notice a change in my moods a few days before I am due. Is it because I know it's coming or is there truth to this whole pms thing? Or is it because my husband truly is being a douchecock?
Re: I don't believe in PMS...
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I don't know how I feel about it. I don't really get PMS, and I guess I am lucky.
HOWEVER, if it does exist and you know you get b!tchy during PMS, then I think you can't use it as an excuse, you have to be a grown up and realize and grow up. I hate it when people say things like oh, I am PMSing or I am PG or whatever so I can be b!tchy. Nope. You recognized the issue, now deal.
I hate the fact that it is real for me. Just about every month just a couple days before I'm on my period my husband and I get into an argument over something he's done that I'm upset about. He doesn't understand, and is pretty indifferent about the issue, I fall apart like its the end of the world into a sobbing mess, and then he tells me "oh, you must be getting your period in a couple of days." Of course, I always shout back, "Just because you're being an *** doesn't mean I'm PMSing! Take responsibility for your actions rather than making excuses!"
Every single time this exchange has happened I have gotten my period either the next day or two days later. It infuriates me even more that he was right, and I might (but just might) have been a tad emotional and just may have been overreacting.
Though, I never use it as an excuse to be an b!tch or get out of anything. It makes me so angry when women do that. Which is partly the same reason why I hate it so much when my Dh uses my PMSing as an excuse not to take me seriously when I'm so upset. Because even thought I may be overreacting, the reason I'm upset is still very real.
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I absolutely believe that it exists, including the mood swings, feeling hormonal and pissy, etc. What you do with those feelings though is still up to you. I do notice myself losing patience faster and being less tolerant, but I am aware of that happening to me and why it's happening, and do my best to keep it under control.
I don't like to blame bad behavior and my inability to control myself on hormones and pms because I think pretty soon people will just start thinking, "Oh she's a hormonal crazy person who can't control herself," and that's not going to do me any favors.
Seriously? I mean do people seriously not believe it's real? I'm not trying to be snarky, I'm just surprised people would think that, especially since doctors acknowledge it as legitimate and there's a whole drug industry built up around it. Here's what the Mayo Clinic has to say about it and here's what the federal government has to say.
Yeah, aside from personal experience, there's the above.
my PP pms is insane. I get nauseous (to the point that I now have a standing zofran prescription) and I have the mood swings. If we weren't about to start TTC, I'd be on a hormonal pill, too. Hormones. Yeesh.
But at least we get multiple orgasms, right...? ;-)
About a week before my period I get crazy emotional. I see a car commercial with particularly dramatic music and I will start sobbing. I will have a mini quarter-life crisis where I question my life and whether I need to change everything. I will have an argument with DH over why he brought home romaine hearts instead of mixed greens and try to read a deeper meaning into it.
I don't get bitchy, I get falling-to-bits sad and melodramatic. It's always something ridiculous and since it happens every month it is very easy to tell, even if I haven't been paying much attention to where I am in my cycle. It's always the week before my period. Even if you explained part of that away as me just being cuckoo, I would still find it odd that only 1 week out of the month do I cry at half of the commercials I see. It's just too silly and pronounced for me to explain any other way. I am most definitely a believer.
However, I think that like all things, there is a self-fulfilling prophecy aspect to it at play, at least for some people and to some degree. We tell teenagers they will lash out at their parents and be rebellious, we tell women they get PMS, we tell men they will have a mid-life crisis, etc. and, while there may be truth in all of that, there is also always going to be those who act that way simply because we've told them they will. And some people, consciously or not, will play these expectations up a bit to excuse their actions.
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