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"friend" drama [mostly a vent]
So, this girl I had been friends with for a while stopped speaking to me when I started seeing M. She had done some dramatic stuff before when I would meet or start hanging out with a new guy - even though she has a boyfriend, so it's not like she was jealous of me dating. It seemed that she was just very possessive of friends and didn't deal well with having to share, so to speak. The first time this all happened, I gave her another chance - I don't really know why, but I don't have a ton of girl friends around here so I guess I just wanted to maintain the friendships I had.
Well anyway, I started seeing M and she immediately stopped speaking to me. A couple months go by and I've tried to start a conversation with her and had no reply - a couple of different times. Finally I decided I'm done trying to push the issue, she clearly isn't interested in being friends now that I'm dating someone, and I'm over it. Since everything she posts on FB is negative and dramatic, I removed her from my FB list along with some other people I am no longer friends with (an ex-boyfriend, etc.)
Well about half an hour later she started texting and emailing me obsessively asking why I unfriended her, saying she loves me and always has, that she has been "crying all day" about it, is devastated, etc. Keep in mind, I haven't heard from this girl in over a month. This continued all day on Saturday. I was out with M and the little dude and really didn't want to deal with it so I didn't reply. The next day it continued, saying I'm just a shallow b*tch who doesn't deserve to have friends anyway and a bunch of other nonsense. And then she started calling me out on Twitter (and is still tweeting about how awful I am and what a better person she is).
This is beyond ridiculous. After the first text message I had considered just sending her an email letting her know I wish her well but this has gotten to a point where I don't even want to deal with it.
Did your head explode reading this? Mine almost did typing it. This is not how adults behave, right? And I should just ignore the ridiculousness? This woman is 26 years old! I thought middle school was over 14 years ago.
Re: "friend" drama [mostly a vent]
ABSOFREAKINGLUTELY! She is insane. You should just ignore her. Who tweets and writes FB status updates about stuff like this?
Right?! If someone I hadn't talked to in months took me off their FB I wouldn't even notice!
CRAZYCAKES!
I would say that she adds nothing good to your life so ignore her. I've had to do this with a list of people. If they only bring negativity...I figure I don't need them.
And I was just thinking this morning, after reading your comments on Abe's blog, about how nice of a person you are!
Wow- totally agree with PPs, sounds like homegirl has completely gone off the reservation, what the eff?!
I think you're completely wise to 100% distance yourself from this wingnut and stop all contact from her. Clearly, she pink puffy hearts the drama and is taking your de-friending on as some sort of coalition of ME. Ignore the hosebeast and enjoy your sanity. Just watch out if you catch glimpses of her in your rear-view sporting your hairstyle...
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I so agree with this!
Aww, thank you!
And y'all are right, ignoring her is the only way to go to preserve my sanity. The emails and texts have died down. Now she's just bashing me on Twitter. Special!
Yes - just walk away! Good thing is that since she's in 7th grade, she should have new drama by next week. :-P
I agree with pps. It sounds to me like you are out of this friendship and if all you have to "pay" is a little bad publicity on this woman's Tweeter and FB pages, then I think you got out cheap! Her other friends are no doubt aware of her personality, but also I'm sure she'll move on to some other concoction of drama and self-love/pity soon enough...
Let her go and gladly!
I definitely do too including some of my best friends. With most people it's really no big deal to me. This girl is a special case - the last time she didn't speak to me for a few weeks I later found out she was angry I was talking to one of her male friends (though she denied it to my face when I asked) and had been spreading rumors about me to our mutual friends (which she again denied, then admitted and asked for another chance). The back story with her is so long and obnoxious you all would run me off the board if I typed it all out