November 2010 Weddings
LindsMullinix
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Lets have some fun ladies...
Anyone got any good gossip (or drama or venting) that you can't share in real life?
(Really, even if you can share it IRL we'd still love to hear)
-Linds
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Re: Lets have some fun ladies...
I have a good piece...
These people that DH works with are insane. DH works with two guys -- let's call them Dave and Jim. Dave is married, let's her Kate. Well, Jim fell on some rough times, so Dave let Jim move in with him and Kate. About a month later, Kate kicks Dave out, and Jim moves into Kate's room. Dave and Kate's kids call Jim DAD! After like 4 weeks. Jim swears that they weren't sleeping together until Kate threw Dave out, but I think he's lying. So now, Dave and Kate are looking into getting a divorce -- they haven't even signed the papers yet. And Kate proposes to Jim, and Jim accepted! This whole story is so screwed up because Dave and Jim work together. And Dave was being nice by letting Jim move in, and Jim moves in on his girl. I cannot fathom why Dave has not beat the s*** out of Jim. It's just so messed up. LOL
That is so awesome! In a very bad way, but still, awesome.
I have no gossip, I am lame
Catarntina - ummm WOW. That sounds like some TV type of drama right there lol.
That kind of reminds me of my own personal drama from a few years back. I had recently broken up with a boyfriend of 3 years and went out for a night with the girls when we ran into a group of marines at the bar. At the end of the night I exchanged numbers with one of the guys and began chatting daily via text. We made plans to hang out the following weekend. He and 1 or 2 of his friends (depending on the weekend) spent their weekends at my house for the next 6 or 7 weeks.
Early on when we just began texting I did a little cyber stalking and found that he had a myspace page (keep in mind this was like 4 years ago) - his profile was private, but his main pic was of him and a girl - so I asked him about it. He told me it was his ex and that he hadnt been on recently so he hadnt changed the picture. He told me that she had broken up with him while he was at basic training because she couldnt handle him being away. The very next day he updated his profile pic to one of him alone, and his status said something about looking forward to the weekend.
Fast forward a few weeks I found out that at least 2 of his marine friends had girlfriends back home, but were openly attempting to pick up girls at the bar - I jokingly said to him "are you sure you dont have a girlfriend" and he assured me he didnt. I had no other reason to believe that he did, afterall he was at my house every weekend, all weekend, and the only time he was ever on the phone was when his dad would call.
Another week or two later one of the girls I worked with at the time asked me if he had a facebook page - I told her I had no clue - I didnt have a FB at the time so I hadnt thought to look - she did, and low and behold, the same pic of him with the girl was his profile pic. She then looked at his list of friends, found a girl - we'll call her Sally, that had the SAME pic of them together as her profile pic. My friend friend requested her, she accepted and we saw that they were listed as "in a relationship"...I of course flipped out on him, he did finally admit to having a girlfriend...a few days later I looked at her FB page (with my friends logins) and saw a ticker that read "Baby name is on his way"... Yep, thats right ladies, he was cheating on his pregnant girlfriend with me and somehow managed to do it without either of us knowing for about 6 weeks.
He was then stationed a few hours away and we never saw each other again, but he would still call or text occasionally - about a month after he left, he called to tell me he was married...he said and I quote "I did it for the baby...I give it about a year" - I told him he was an idiot and that was that. Until his wife looked at their phone bill and saw my number in his texts - she called and heard my VM (knowing I was female) - she sent my friend a FB message asking who she was and said "If you added me to see if I was John's wife, I AM" - what a cluster fvck of drama that was, I'm ashamed that I didn't pick up on it sooner, and I feel bad for her since she is now married to a complete ass.
...sorry for the novel.
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Wow to both dramas!
Linds, I'm so glad your friend saw that on FB... she saved you a load of grief... and I feel so bad for his wife and more so for that baby!
Well, I have been having some SIL drama. I'm too lazy to type everything again, but I already posted it to the South Asian board on TK:
http://forums.theknot.com/default.aspx?path=http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/cultural-wedding-boards_south-asian-weddings
And the story continues:
http://forums.theknot.com/default.aspx?path=http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/cultural-wedding-boards_south-asian-weddings
The brief synopsis: arranged marriage, asking us for money, insulting her parents, and kicking out her roommate.
And I have another one! My friends N and D used to date (actually, they came to the US together). They broke up many years ago but still spend all their time together. D is now dating P, who is, naturally, insanely jealous of N. All of us also had these friends T and O. Almost 2 years ago, T became terminally ill. N took care of her for many months until she passed away last year. I guess during that time N and O became "close" but didn't say anything because of the obvious social complications.
I started to suspect that they were dating because N kept saying how horrible and complicated her personal life was but wouldn't give details. And she's the type who would come out and say "yeah, I'm sleeping with my married boss," so I immediately guessed the candidate must be O. Apparently, I was the only one who thought of it.
(At our wedding there was a scene between these people when N turned up in a navy dress and D in a navy tie, and P threw a fit and made D trade ties with a guy who had a red tie so he wouldn't match N.)
Then on NYE, N and O didn't turn up. P began making a big deal out of how they "both aren't here." Around 3:00 am, they stumbled in, wasted off their *sses and in fancy dress. N proceeded to cry on D's shoulder while O came on to me. P actually asked them if they came by car! Even if they had started the evening in a car, there was no way either of them even knew where it was at that point. The evening was definitely at an end and D called them a cab.
So all of us had dinner together about two weeks ago. N and O are still pretending they're not together and P is desperately trying to have D's baby, somewhat against his will. Yes! We're adults!
Wow Linds. That crazy! At least you got out before you got seriously involved!! I can't believe the girl was pregnant. Awesome fella she got there.
Your story reminds me of my friend. She dated this guy who had a GF she didn't know about. My friend found out about the GF, confronted the guy, and the guy threatened her. Basically, "If you ever tell her about us, I'll kill you." Obviously, my friend stopped seeing this guy, and then a couple days later found out she contracted an STI -- thankfully, it was curable. But lovely fella he was!
I am so full of drama. I could write a book. When I was in college, it was like watching a live action soap opera.
If you want an update on the two guys above, Jim is starting to work on the invitations and asked DH for advice on them today! I could not believe it. It's like a freakin' soap opera. DH sits right across from Dave, and next to Jim. So he is completely stuck in the middle of it all
Wow! Cantarntina you could totally write screen plays! I can't believe Jim would ask Dave's help. Doesn't he see anything wrong with the whole situation?
I got another:
My friend, who I would describe as conservative forwarded me an email. It seems that he went online looking for people interested in swapping partners in our area (which, again, I would describe as minivans, BMWs, and Banana Republic). More than one couple sent him an email (or I guess actually a reply to his email) including their family photo. As in them with their kids! My jaw couldn't drop because it already had thinking about the unlikelihood of the whole thing. But seriously, sending out a picture with your kids in it for something like that in a relatively small community???
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Whoa, y'all have some wild stories! That is insane. I see a pilot for a new show starting here...hee hee. I've been caught in the middle of other people's crazy cheating & lies before - not a fun position to be in! I feel for your H Cat.
LOL - I think all the stories are pretty soap opera worthy - and to think some people say that soap operas have too much drama and stuff like that never happens in real life HA - turns out it does!
If my calculations are right the d-bag in my story should have just had his 3 year wedding anniversary (if they are still married)...and his son will be turning 3 in a couple of months. I wish I could say people make mistakes and learn from them, but I really doubt he learned given his "I give it a year" comment. Maybe its time to do a little FB stalking ha. I'll let you ladies know if I find anything.
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I have no good gossip lately. I think my friends all matured too much! haha.
But this was an entertaining thread, so I thank you all for that.
P.S. Linds- your hubby is beautiful.
Eat.Drink.BeMarried. Blog.
Thanks Steph - I totally agree, then again I'm a bit partial
I'm counting on him to make me some beautiful babies! Oh and my apologies for the ginormous siggy pic - I dont know whats going on, it was smaller earlier now its so big you have to scroll lol. I'll see if I can fix it.
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Catching up here. I am speechless lol. I seriously am like, whoa. I feel like I should have a story but I don't really, but I guess that is a good thing lol.
Linds - your new siggy pics IS rather gorgeous - both of you!!!
I am trying to think... I dated some really interesting men too lol but NOTHING comes close. One guy I dated, I broke up with because he seemed more "in love with love" and not me. He was so crushed and insisted I was sooooooo wrong. 2 months later, I ran across a picture of him and a story about how he just got engaged. Got that? 2 months after we broke up he had proposed to a girl. And we had dated for almost a year. But he wasn't in love with love, right? He didn't just want to get married to anyone, right? Lol. Poor guy. I was just thinking about him the other day, hoping for his own sake that that engagement didn't last (it's been like 8 years since then). He's probably way more mature now.
OMG I just heard the weirdest story!
J works for DH and we know her socially. She is married to a kind of weird guy. He didn't have any friends, so he decided to go on craigslist to make some. Needless to say, his friends are all pretty strange too.
So today J told DH that one of her husband's friends is getting his penis surgically removed. Not a sex change. Just the penis removed. DH almost choked and fell out of his chair. Even when he told me just now during dinner I almost choked too.
Apparently, there is a community of people who do that, it is legal, and not considered a psychological problem (I asked)... who knew?
Ummmm what?! Why would someone want to do that (unless they were getting a sex change)? I dont even have a penis but I cant imagine parting with one if I did have one lol. I just cant fathom wanting to remove a part of your body...especially one that provides so much pleasure.
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I had pretty much the same reaction. I said "Oh, you mean he's getting a sex change," because I can understand that some people would be happier to not be the gender they were born with. And DH said no, apparently this guy identifies himself as "asexual" and does not want to have sex with either gender. I still don't see why he can't just not have sex and I was surprised they even let you do things like that.
Zara - Thank you
The pic was taken on our honeymoon and I love love love it!
Temur - I feel like they should at least require a psych evaluation prior to surgery (maybe they do).
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I certainly hope so!!!
sort of a confession... but I'll share with you ladies.
.. I still have a hint of guilt when I think of my past partners/mistakes (there really weren't that many, just things I'm not proud of..) and how wonderful my husband is and had not had any previous sexual partners. DH and I still don't discuss any of my past relationships, but I just had to get that out. I think I feel much better.
Gossip... I find it funny to be able to say that my friend was "knocked up" on her second wedding to the same guy, in the same year... I know it's mean to think that, but ehh. it makes me laugh a little. (I really have nothing against that because I was about a few weeks shy of being knocked up on mine...secretly I wanted to be pregnant before the wedding)
I wouldnt dwell on your past partners/decision to sleep with someone prior to H - I say this because you really never know where life will take you and if you didn't have the experiences you have had in the past things may have worked out differently now. At the end of the day you have an amazing husband and that is all that matters
For what its worth, H has had several more partners than I have, and I have still had a few...even knowing that he still doesnt like acknowleding my past relationships/encounters, he likes to think of me as his and his only which I am fine with lol.
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