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Registry for 3rd Baby
At work, they're throwing a surprise baby shower for a woman who is having her third baby. That doesn't bother me, because people like to celebrate and she doesn't even know about it. I was surprised, though, that she has two registries (both were mentioned in the e-mail invite) and that there are quite a lot of very expensive items on them (and only two inexpensive items).
The organizer of the shower mentioned that this woman gave away a lot of her baby stuff after her second child, so she needs everything for her third child. Which makes sense, but it still feels a little weird to me, especially since a lot of the items aren't 'necessities' or are duplicates, like 2 bottle warmers, 2 different $150 swings, 2 playards (which is like a playpen/crib thing, I found out). I guess I see it both ways: it sucks not to have all this stuff, but if I were in this position I wouldn't register for these items.
I know that I can choose to decline or get her diapers and onesies and ignore the registry, but I'm wondering if she might have registered differently if she knew there was going to be a work shower with a ton of people invited. Or am I being a complete fuddy-duddy for thinking this registry is kind of gift-grabby? It doesn't change my opinion of her or anything, I still think she's a really sweet person and I want to go to the shower, but I think the registry is in bad taste and maybe I'm crazy for feeling that way.
Re: Registry for 3rd Baby
Um, whut? I vote in bad taste. It could be that they're outfitting their house and a relatives who will watch the kid, or something like that. We'll be doing some of that, since my mom wants to watch the kid 2 days/week, which may be at her house, depending on where I'm working. But sheesh, I wouldn't register.
I honestly don't even want ONE baby shower, and this is my first kid.
I think baby showers are appropriate when kids are far apart. Otherwise a more casual celebratory lunch should suffice for the following kids.
I am always in favor of registering and on those registries in have three price points: low, medium and high. I think it's a no no not to have the lower two price points no matter what the occasion. Knock yourself out and put all of your expensive wishes on there, but for people who'd like to get you a gift but not that huge of one, give them some options too.
I didn't think about the possibility of one for her house, one for someone who will be watching the baby. That does make sense...but it still seems weird to register for both. And like I said, she may have done it differently if she knew there would be a shower - who knows, maybe she set this up for a completion discount, or because close friends/family had expressed an interest in buying her some big-ticket items.
Interesting. I'd assume that since this is a surprise shower, that she's registered for stuff to get the discount, but I like to assume the best in people.
You're probably right, that if she knew she was getting the work shower, she'd have registered differently.
Also, since she's already a mom, she's got a better idea of how much of the cheaper stuff they'd need, like clothes and burp cloths, and stuff like that.
Her first two kids are sort of far apart (5 or 6 years?) but her second daughter is 3 so I don't really consider that a big gap between her and the new baby. I don't really know what constitutes 'far apart' though.
The e-mail mentioned that people are going in together for a big gift, but I didn't ask for more details because I'm doing something with two co-workers. So it's not ridiculous to have big items on there, I just wish there were small things too. I know that I can pick out small things on my own, but I like knowing I got something the person likes (which is why I like registries). Plus I spend way less on baby showers than, say, wedding gifts, so I feel like there need to be more things in the low and mid-range price points.
I don't know how the organizer got the registry info...to give the woman the benefit of the doubt, maybe the organizer looked it up on her own?