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Our tech team has launched updates to The Nest today. As a result of these updates, members of the Nest Community will need to change their password in order to continue participating in the community. In addition, The Nest community member's avatars will be replaced with generic default avatars. If you wish to revert to your original avatar, you will need to re-upload it via The Nest.
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Role Playing?
So.. We have decided to try role playing. Seems really easy right? Wrong.. I don't know how far to take this or what to do! I mean in my head I know.. but we are such goofballs that I'm afraid I will bust out laughing by accident.
How do you get started? I feel so... inexperienced at role playing, but I'm excited and ready to try.
Any tips? Ideas? Anything?!
Re: Role Playing?
Ok...role playing can be a hard grove to get into, but once you get into it, it is easy to continue.
First, make up a list of fantasies that you have NO desire to create. Like rape fantasies, having sex with family members or adult babies. Whatever would make your stomach heave, be sure to say it out loud. People have funny sexual barriers and if you know them in advance, you can avoid hitting them at a vulnerable time.
Then make a list of sexy fantasies - cheerleader dominating the peeping Tom football captain, innocent college girl being seduced by the professor, powerful king and his new concubine - that would really turn your crank. Perhaps even write out key phrases that make that scene really hot for you, not a full blown script but a quick list of major plot points that would make it sexy.
Figure out a signal to indicate when play time starts and ends. Also, figure out a signal to tell the other which rounds of sex are going to involve role play and which are going to be regular sex. Perhaps a key phrase "hey, are you in the mood for a playdate?" so that the other person knows what the menu for the evening will entail. That way they can say "Honey, I really want you, but I am not up to role play tonight." so that no one is surprised or disappointed.
Finally, have a safeword that you guys can use to stop all play immediately when someone gets a bit emotionally freaked out. Try the work "pickle" -- unless you are role playing Mean McDonalds manager and the bumbling employee, it is unlikely to be confused for anything in the scene.
The boss secretary scene is a really easy one to act out and get into ;D
A safe-word is helpful, if random words like "pickles" feel too silly for you sometimes addressing you partner by their full name (if you never call them that of course!) will get their attention.
If your doing any kind of BDSM it's best to have a pair of scissors across the room just in case you need to be cut out of some kind of bondage in a hurry.
I would love to do more role-playing but my DH has no imagination when it comes to sex scenes and seems like I'm topping from the bottom when I have to keep things going.
Have Fun!