Thursday Confessions

Temp663997437501443 · April 2011

Time for a Nestie confession session.

Temp663997437501443 · April 2011

I am so behind in my work. Instead of doing what I need to do to catch up, I'm kind of wallowing in the misery of it all. I feel like I have one or two friends who just complain, don't put anything into our friendship, and treat people who care about them poorly. And just when I say I'm done with them, they decide to pay attention. But, I'm kind of over it. I am ditching them for good.

Alishanyc · April 2011

315bride:
Time for a Nestie confession session.

I confess that for the first time, I have lost steam when it comes to school. I figure its because I'm just pregnant and tired, and I feel somewhat guilty because there are plenty of women out there that have children, and work and go to school..and here I am (the nerve!) feeling burned out. I've given myself the "knock it off" pep talk, and need to re-focus. ESPECIALLY because I'm taking a summer class that will end a couple of weeks before my due date. I just need to get through it.

I also confess that I dont feel bad for cutting some people out of our lives - it ended up being they were taking more than they were giving. *A few of them were just taking more energy than they were worth, quite honestly..and now, we feel really great - everything is just so peaceful...

Alishanyc · April 2011

315bride:
I am so behind in my work. Instead of doing what I need to do to catch up, I'm kind of wallowing in the misery of it all. I feel like I have one or two friends who just complain, don't put anything into our friendship, and treat people who care about them poorly. And just when I say I'm done with them, they decide to pay attention. But, I'm kind of over it. I am ditching them for good.

Girl, its liberating! If you've given people enough chances and they just dont change then this friendship is just no benefit to you. Well done on taking care of your needs.

Lisichka · April 2011

This is silly, but here goes. We booked our "let's leave the kiddo with the parents and go on a fancy vacation" vacation last night. We're going to Ireland. In September, which is five months away. So last night before going to bed, I admitted to DH that I felt quite stupid jumping on this deal we found this early (in our defense, it was an amazing deal). I also almost got two tour books on Amazon last night, but then I realized I have plenty of time to do that. Now I'm feeling anxious and impatient for September to get here.

adozenroses · April 2011

I have two weeks left before I have to defend my thesis, and I am not done writing it yet. I am not as far as I thought I would be at this point. And i have had writer's block for a full week. And like Amy, I am wallowing in it all! I need to get back on track pronto!

I am also feeling depressed about my taxes and concerned about finances in general.

lawby2005 · April 2011

My confession is my former high school classmate from back in Dominica facebooked me 2 weeks ago to let me know she was here. So I replied that we could hang out at my home. She called me day before yesterday so we could start making plans. I asked her how long was she here for. Her reply? "Until I have my baby!" WTF? She is 7.5 months pregnant and came to have a baby here. With my recent loss, I don't think I want her at my home anymore and I am trying to think of a tactful way to either not meet her at all or to meet in the city for a brief reunion. I feel bad but I don't know if I will be able to handle her being hugely pregnant and sitting on my couch all freaking afternoon. By the way, this is her 2nd kid.

Just too soon... Sad

Temp663997437501443 · April 2011

lawby2005:
My confession is my former high school classmate from back in Dominica facebooked me 2 weeks ago to let me know she was here. So I replied that we could hang out at my home. She called me day before yesterday so we could start making plans. I asked her how long was she here for. Her reply? "Until I have my baby!" WTF? She is 7.5 months pregnant and came to have a baby here. With my recent loss, I don't think I want her at my home anymore and I am trying to think of a tactful way to either not meet her at all or to meet in the city for a brief reunion. I feel bad but I don't know if I will be able to handle her being hugely pregnant and sitting on my couch all freaking afternoon. By the way, this is her 2nd kid.

Just too soon...

I totally hear you on not feeling comfortable.

On a side note, and this is the Judgey McJudgerson in me, but what is she doing flying so late in her PG? And why is she having a baby here? Is it so her baby can be born in the U.S.? Like anchor-baby style?

adozenroses · April 2011

Update: Met my advisor and he let me know that I am not as far behind as I thought! Two weeks and I'm done!

Lawby - I am so sorry you are going through this difficult situation. *hugs*

musiscout · April 2011

DH is going to be gone to DR for 5 days of my vacation from school. He couldn't go in February, because of work when I could have went with. I said he could go in April, but didn't expect the only time to work out while I was off from work. I can't go with at 8 months pregnant. I'm not sure what I'm I'm going to do the whole time he's gone and hope that he still is going to have time to help get her room ready and with Spring projects. I can still do alot of things, but I really want my windows cleaned and can't imagine bending to do that by myself with this huge belly. I told hime he cold go this summer after the baby and I are acclimated. He doesn't want to, which I guess is kind of nice in a way.

*Lawby: Maybe just have lunch with her and then tell her things came up and you're so busy. That's certainly interesting to fly at 7.5 months pregnant to come here and not even have an OB.

lawby2005 · April 2011

315bride:
lawby2005:

My confession is my former high school classmate from back in Dominica facebooked me 2 weeks ago to let me know she was here. So I replied that we could hang out at my home. She called me day before yesterday so we could start making plans. I asked her how long was she here for. Her reply? "Until I have my baby!" WTF? She is 7.5 months pregnant and came to have a baby here. With my recent loss, I don't think I want her at my home anymore and I am trying to think of a tactful way to either not meet her at all or to meet in the city for a brief reunion. I feel bad but I don't know if I will be able to handle her being hugely pregnant and sitting on my couch all freaking afternoon. By the way, this is her 2nd kid.

Just too soon...

I totally hear you on not feeling comfortable.

On a side note, and this is the Judgey McJudgerson in me, but what is she doing flying so late in her PG? And why is she having a baby here? Is it so her baby can be born in the U.S.? Like anchor-baby style?

Uh huh! Apparently it's all the rage nowadays to say one has an "American baby" and I guess to take advantage of the educational opportunities?!? I still don't fully get it. The Caribbean has awesome educational opportunities to study all over the world on scholarships. Also they are not paying to deliver. How? I do not know!!!! This is like the 7th person whom I know personally or heard about through the grapevines who came here to have an American baby. Oh Lawd!

lawby2005 · April 2011

musiscout:

DH is going to be gone to DR for 5 days of my vacation from school. He couldn't go in February, because of work when I could have went with. I said he could go in April, but didn't expect the only time to work out while I was off from work. I can't go with at 8 months pregnant. I'm not sure what I'm I'm going to do the whole time he's gone and hope that he still is going to have time to help get her room ready and with Spring projects. I can still do alot of things, but I really want my windows cleaned and can't imagine bending to do that by myself with this huge belly. I told hime he cold go this summer after the baby and I are acclimated. He doesn't want to, which I guess is kind of nice in a way.

*Lawby: Maybe just have lunch with her and then tell her things came up and you're so busy. That's certainly interesting to fly at 7.5 months pregnant to come here and not even have an OB.

Yeah I feel you about him leaving you at 8 months. Maybe its his last hurrah before settling in as a daddy plus the fact that he doesn't want to leave you and baby is kinda sweet. I hope he enjoys himself and then when he comes back he is ready to go with diaper duty and midnight feedings! LOL If you need any help while he is away, call me!

Temp663997437501443 · April 2011

lawby2005:
315bride:
lawby2005:

My confession is my former high school classmate from back in Dominica facebooked me 2 weeks ago to let me know she was here. So I replied that we could hang out at my home. She called me day before yesterday so we could start making plans. I asked her how long was she here for. Her reply? "Until I have my baby!" WTF? She is 7.5 months pregnant and came to have a baby here. With my recent loss, I don't think I want her at my home anymore and I am trying to think of a tactful way to either not meet her at all or to meet in the city for a brief reunion. I feel bad but I don't know if I will be able to handle her being hugely pregnant and sitting on my couch all freaking afternoon. By the way, this is her 2nd kid.

Just too soon...

I totally hear you on not feeling comfortable.

On a side note, and this is the Judgey McJudgerson in me, but what is she doing flying so late in her PG? And why is she having a baby here? Is it so her baby can be born in the U.S.? Like anchor-baby style?

Uh huh! Apparently it's all the rage nowadays to say one has an "American baby" and I guess to take advantage of the educational opportunities?!? I still don't fully get it. The Caribbean has awesome educational opportunities to study all over the world on scholarships. Also they are not paying to deliver. How? I do not know!!!! This is like the 7th person whom I know personally or heard about through the grapevines who came here to have an American baby. Oh Lawd!

That is crazy. I hate hearing about these things. Just confirms all the stuff the right-wingers say about rights and benefits for Americans. In some countries, there are residency requirements for parents to have full citizenship. The US makes it pretty easy. To our detriment in some cases. And, yes, I've heard the same about the educational system in the Caribbean.

lawby2005 · April 2011

315bride:
lawby2005:
315bride:
lawby2005:

My confession is my former high school classmate from back in Dominica facebooked me 2 weeks ago to let me know she was here. So I replied that we could hang out at my home. She called me day before yesterday so we could start making plans. I asked her how long was she here for. Her reply? "Until I have my baby!" WTF? She is 7.5 months pregnant and came to have a baby here. With my recent loss, I don't think I want her at my home anymore and I am trying to think of a tactful way to either not meet her at all or to meet in the city for a brief reunion. I feel bad but I don't know if I will be able to handle her being hugely pregnant and sitting on my couch all freaking afternoon. By the way, this is her 2nd kid.

Just too soon...

I totally hear you on not feeling comfortable.

On a side note, and this is the Judgey McJudgerson in me, but what is she doing flying so late in her PG? And why is she having a baby here? Is it so her baby can be born in the U.S.? Like anchor-baby style?

Uh huh! Apparently it's all the rage nowadays to say one has an "American baby" and I guess to take advantage of the educational opportunities?!? I still don't fully get it. The Caribbean has awesome educational opportunities to study all over the world on scholarships. Also they are not paying to deliver. How? I do not know!!!! This is like the 7th person whom I know personally or heard about through the grapevines who came here to have an American baby. Oh Lawd!

That is crazy. I hate hearing about these things. Just confirms all the stuff the right-wingers say about rights and benefits for Americans. In some countries, there are residency requirements for parents to have full citizenship. The US makes it pretty easy. To our detriment in some cases. And, yes, I've heard the same about the educational system in the Caribbean.

I am not even an American and I don't like it. It feels so abusive of the system and especially now that I am a taxpayer - not cool!

musiscout · April 2011

I know of Dominicans doing the same thing. They try to get pregnant in DR and then come here to have the baby and hope the father will follow them. It's just so missing the point of having a child in my point of view. Children are a blessing- not the newest craze or a game to play with citizenship or baby daddies. I get so mad about this. These children then in my school too get shipped back and forth inbetween countries.

Lawby- Thanks for the offer. Her room was the last renovation of our home. When we bought it it was painted bright orange. It has been coated with primer, 2 coats of white and now 2 coats of yellow. And I still see little spots of the peachy orange stuff! I don't think others will notice though.

Pokeybear1 · April 2011

lawby2005:
With my recent loss, I don't think I want her at my home anymore ... I feel bad but I don't know if I will be able to handle her being hugely pregnant and sitting on my couch all freaking afternoon.
Just too soon...

Lawby, don't feel bad about not wanting to spend time with her. You are going through a very painful process of grief and loss. I agree with what other people said, get together with her for coffee or lunch/dinner and call it a day. You don't need to do anymore. Especially since she doesn't sound so cool, anyway.

My confession is that I am having surgery on Tuesday to remove a grapefruit sized irregular/complex cyst from my left ovary and I don't want to do it. I have to do it. It is more dangerous for me and the baby to leave it in, but I just don't want to do it. I can not make myself generate any sort of hope that this thing is going to be benign and I am not going to lose the baby and I just don't want to deal with it. That is totally unlike me, I am always in the know everything/do everything category and here I am just wishing that I could get out of this somehow and pretending that this thing doesn't exist.

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