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He's begging me to stay, don't know what to do. Long.
Okay... trying this again.
My boss had "ears" where I interviewed yesterday and called me into his office... He says things around here will change starting now. I will get a raise, he doesn't know how much yet, and commission for websites. We will have 6 paid holidays (never had them before, believe it or not) and possibly real vacation days. He says this would be a bad time to lose me and that I should know I am appreciated. That I have grown since I started and can keep growing here. I don't need to go somewhere else and "start all over."
I wasn't even surprised when he told me he knew where I was, but I still wasn't prepared for him to ask so nicely for me to stay here. He also said anywhere else I go, I won't have my flexible schedule. I don't know what I should do. The office is so small it's almost a strange little family. If I do leave, I don't know how he's going to make it. I'm not trying to brag, just be honest. I carry a huge load here, the other 3 people do too. If one of us leaves, it throws the whole business into a lurch.
He specifically said, of all the agencies around here, the one I was at is the one he would least like to see me go. He claimed they hire when they have large projects, then dump the people when that account is done, that he doesn't want that to happen to me. Not sure if that's true, or just his rivalry-ness not wanting me to go there.
But, isn't this part of life? Get a new job, start somewhere new? I don't think I will learn more here, that's a big reason I was job hunting. I don't know how sure these new changes will be. I need to make more money. But I don't want to leave the office in uproar. They've helped me to grow so much.. In some ways, he does treat us really well.
Maybe I will get the job at the giant corporation. That would solve everything because it's not a rival to his business. They would also pay over two times what he is paying me.
Why did this have to get so complicated? 
I don't know if anyone can offer insight or anything... I just needed someone to tell.
Yummy drink if you made it through all that 
Re: He's begging me to stay, don't know what to do. Long.
Well, that's great that you have a boss that thinks so highly of you and who is willing to do (almost) whatever to keep you around. That being said, you don't need to make any sort of decisions right now. You just had an interview - it doesn't necessary mean you'll get the job (not trying to be mean!)
I would start to just think about your situation and your current job and maybe even make a pro/con list. Then if you get offered a new job, you can weigh the pros/cons of that new position against the list that you've made for your current job and go from there.
Just breathe!
Sometimes breathing is hard! You're right, tho. It's not like anyone's actually offered me a job yet.
The other agency is looking to hire someone on very quickly. Like less than 2 weeks. I believe I have the last or 2nd to last of the 2nd interview time spots. So, if they do offer it to me, it will come quickly after I see them.
I guess am afraid of not being prepared with an answer...
Not sure about the other one, hopefully I will learn more about their timeline Wednesday morning.
I definitely am making a pros and cons list!! A very good suggestion.
I agree with Lauren. Get through the next week, keep working hard at your current job, and see what happens. I think the job at the big corporation sounds awesome. I know how you feel with being burnt out at your current job but not wanting to leave co-workers. I'm so there.
Just remember, in the end you have to do what's right for YOU. Make the decision for yourself, not to please anyone else.
I agree with all the PP's. Just wait and see, nd in the meantime weigh your options. In the end, make sure you are doing what is best for YOU and your family. I hope things become more clear for you as the week(s) progress here, and that you are able to make the best decision for yourself. Please keep us updated!
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That is awesome that your boss is doing so much to keep you. I would ask him to get all of this (your raise, vacation days, etc.) to you in writing in the meantime while you wait to hear from the place you interviewed at. That way you know for sure he will follow through.
I agree with the others to make a pro/con list. It is hard to leave a job but remember that you have to do what's best for you. Although your boss may "seem" like he's looking out for you, he is really looking out for his own best interest and the interest of the company-they don't want to lose you.
Good luck and keep us updated!
Thanks for the tips everybody. I have given it a lot of thought and talked it over with more people. If given the opportunity, I have decided that I will take a new position. I have been wanting to for a while anyways. I think I would let myself down if I was offered a job and stayed instead.
I think you are right when you say he is looking out for the best interests of his company, not mine. He had opportunities before this to let me know that they don't want to lose me, and he never did anything about it. Too little too late now. If I get an offer anyways...
Thank you all for listening!