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Eighth layer of hell: Facebook and Parents edition, round two
Dear Nesties,
We all know how it went a few years ago when our parents discovered Facebook. Do we friend them? Do we not?
I'd like to create the 2011 edition: parents inviting THEIR friends to friend you. Maybe this was a previous problem for others, but this is new to me. I got a request last night from her friend. I was mulling it over, how to handle it. I KNEW what I would hear: "She just wants to see pictures of the kids." This morning, I got the email from Mom. Exactly what I thought. She wrote that her friend wanted to see pics and that mom always had to DL the pictures and send them to her, that this would be easier. That her friend was "okay" to add.
Sigh.
I didn't want to have The Conversation with her. But it looks like my SIL (brother's wife) has added the friend. If I deny her, then I look bad.
Sigh.
I think the easiest way to go about it is to just set up a "pictures" group, and not say anything. I kinda miss the analog age of a wallet full of pictures. End vent.
'booked and looked,
kewliegirl
Re: Eighth layer of hell: Facebook and Parents edition, round two
My parents being on FB is annoying enough but when I started get friend requests from their friends- I denied. Most of them are not tech savvy enough to realize they got denied. For the family members I can't deny- I do limit their access.
It is not like I post anything exciting on FB but I just don't want any more requests to play bejeweled or Farmville.
This is making me so happy my mom is a technological luddite. She has an email account, but only receives messages, never sends them. She often needs my dad or one of my brothers to help her open attachments or links.
Which leads to conversations like the following:
Mom: I'm trying to look at this picture you sent me, but when I clicked on it, I see naughty pictures of some Asian girl.
Me: I have no idea what you are doing, but I assure you I did not send you porn. You should be seeing a picture of the dog.
My dad, meanwhile, is one of the coolest people I know, and I'd have no problems friending him, but he's got zero interest in FB.
we share our pix via a shutterfly website. I don't put many on FB, but put a lot on the shutterfly site, maybe you can just do something like that.
I think I share more on thenest/bump than I do on FB
this. you don't HAVE to friend her. Your mom can continue to DL and send her the photos; not your problem. if you wanted her to see them herself, you could email selected shots to her (is she such a good friend of your mom's that she's like an aunt to you, or something?)
"What is a week-end?"
I just don't friend anyone from my parent's generation. No parents, no aunts, no uncles, none of my friend's parents...I just don't do it and I don't care what they think.
Like George Costanza, I don't like my worlds colliding :-)
I'm FB friends w/ MIL, BIL, and GIL (grandmother-in-law) LOL
oh, and AIL (DH's aunt)
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