I need sex advice:(

rawrandstuffx10 · April 2011

H and I used to have a great sex life, then the baby came. Now, neither of us can "get into it" YKWIM? I need some advice on what you ladies do with your H's, im not really into role play....but I think I could try other ideas. And please, spare no details....well actually spare a couple....I need to know what to do/how to do it, etc!

TIA

jonnysgirl07 · April 2011

hmmm

well lets start by me and my H have a 5 mo old baby. We have sex probably about 2-4 times a week. I always make sure that if hes horny Ill just do a quickie even if not really in the mood because I know that once we start Ill get into it fast haha. What do you mean by cant get into it? Like yall just arent horny, or your worried about baby waking? Or you dont feel sexy? You should try a vibrating *** ring. they have disposable ones at the toy store haha that are about 6-7$. There called the screaming O. AMAZING! also we use KY his and hers and the hers is AMAZING! it makes your girly parts cold and tingly(yes cold and it really feels great). Do you like giving bjs? 69? spanking? I know tmi but I am just throwing some ideas out there

rawrandstuffx10 · April 2011

we have a 5mo old too, and i mean that neither of us are interested anymore, we cant get off. sex has become un-fun for us. we used to do ALL of that, besides the Screaming O, or KY but they sound nice, any more suggestions? Thanks !

jonnysgirl07 · April 2011

is there a underlying issue? like financial, or somthing like that? That sucks considering yall want it but not enjoying it. Me and H are pretty crazy......I actually reall really love it when he chokes me....i know it may sound crazy but I really love it haha. Do you play with vibrators? Me and h have one that is smaller for my bum haha while hes in doggy style and we love that....I hope I am not too much tmi. Just being honest. I was worried about trying to be sexy and I ebf so still I always have a bra or my shirt on or my milk gets everywhere so I dont feel sexy at all. And all my sexy clothes dont fit. I don't like role play but I do dress up for him in sexy stuff, or did before baby. Do you and your H talk about what may be causing this? Sometimes I think too much duiring sex and cant climax. That sucks haha. Hope this helps.

rawrandstuffx10 · April 2011

Honestly I feel that we are in the exact same boat (well, except that I cant get off) I EBF, looove being choked, used to wear outfits (when i could fit). ive never tried the smaller vibrator, but something tells me H would like that....he is aaalways trying to have butt-sex. there are many underlying issues, but eh, i dont want to get into that. i just want to enjoy sexy time when i get a chance too

jonnysgirl07 · April 2011

ummm we are too much alike haha! This is great! I mean that were so much alike. I hope that thigs get better. The vib in the but is amazing.. I think. And we bot dont like butt sex, we both liked the idea but not the feel. So the vibrator is great for us both because he can feel it too...its pretty hott im not going to lie. I hope that you find something that works. If you ever want to chat just write me up! esp since we have so much in common haha. When was your baby born? mine was 11/9/10:) I was 37 weeks induced due to preeclampsia

howleyshell · April 2011

Wanted to share that if you're BF'ing that could have a LOT to do with your lack of libido.

BF'ing = increased prolactin levels and decreased estrogen.

For me? Weaning = insane libido surge = baby #2.

Hang in there. It gets better as they get older.

jonnysgirl07 · April 2011

For me? Weaning = insane libido surge = baby #2

hahaha this made me laugh. Didn't think about that, but makes so much sense!

binzy2524 · April 2011

Have one of your girlfriends come over and have a 3-some. Trust me that will get him going, it sure got my husband going!!

LOLways · April 2011

binzy2524:
Have one of your girlfriends come over and have a 3-some. Trust me that will get him going, it sure got my husband going!!

Bringing more people into the bedroom when you are already having issues is a bad idea.

When 1+1 = not doing great, 1+1+1 = just making a bad problem worse.

jonnysgirl07 · April 2011

When 1+1 = not doing great, 1+1+1 = just making a bad problem worse.

theres no way I would do that haha. Not that bold:)

LOLways · April 2011

Poster who suggested it was probably a man creeping on TN anyway.

You could always just put on a different colored wig than the hair you have and pretend you're an alter ego or something. That sounds like a fun and safe way to act out fantasies without risking insecurities on your part.

skibi83 · April 2011

Hey,

Something we do is use the wipes warmer as a holder for lube and massage oil.

rawrandstuffx10 · April 2011

skibi83:
Hey,

Something we do is use the wipes warmer as a holder for lube and massage oil.

This seriously made me LOL.

@Johnnysgirl, thanks for the advice....im going to try to get H on board for a date night this week. and C was born 10/29/10, i was full term. i mean, reeeeeally full term. im talkin HUUUUGE. lol.

@howley, i knew about the hormonal things and such goin on down there, but i really have never had a problem getting *clears throat* wet , hopefully the end of EBF'ing wont result in another LO, im just not ready yet!

and at whoever said the thing about 3somes? nooot for me, my road map of a stomach is NOT a pleasurable sight....

Thanks everyone who posted!

MrsHK · April 2011

howleyshell:
Wanted to share that if you're BF'ing that could have a LOT to do with your lack of libido.

This 100x's. While BFing I'm kinda 'eh'. I don't remember who else said it but I'm typically in the fake it till we make it camp. Once things get going I'm into it, until then I could take it or leave it.

Once LO is weaned it is on like donkey kong. Then again I'm pregnant for the third time in four years so that's probably a little obvious.

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