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Pooks reminded me...
My ILs are mad at me for picking my sister and BIL to be Xander's gruadian if anything was to happen to Andrew and I. We picked them for a few reasons, but the two most important are: our neice is only 13 months older than him, and if we didn't have a second he would have a sister, and two they can financially afford to raise a second child.
Re: Pooks reminded me...
Alexander David
11.25.09
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Oh duh I forgot about his siblings.
Here's the thing about the siblings:
SIL and BIL are expecting #2 this August, and couldn't afford to take on another child.
BIL#1 is in the Army, sorry I'm not leaving my child with a person who could be deployed for a year or more.
BIL#2 is 23 and has no job.
I just don't get why ILs need to fight about the choices we make for our kids.
Alexander David
11.25.09
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It's a tough situation, definitely. Jacob isn't going to be baptised, so we put off the guardian decision (bad, I know!) -- but it's hard to choose when Thom's brother has 3 children they're good parents, and my sister has 2 children and they're good parents. We have life insurance so we don't have to make the decision based on money, but both families would provide more financial stability than Thom and I would anyway. That brings us to consider friends instead. But why consider friends when the only issue is that we can't choose between two good families??! Makes me want to pull my hair out.
And if someone second-guessed our decision (once we make it! lol!) then that would send me over the edge. It's your baby -- it's not like you didn't think about your decision!
Alexander David
11.25.09
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Playing devil's advocate - they're probably worried that they won't get to see Xander very often or something. Still, they shouldn't be mad at you.
Jordan would stay with my cousin. I have a crazy half brother and Scott's brother doesn't have any kids. Plus, Scott's not his biological father so that might not fly anyways. I wouldn't want him living with grandparents. I spent a lot of time living with mine when I was young. It's not the same as being in a home with a young family.
Welcome to the dark side
Zoey Emma 08.18.10
Yes, allowing your child religious freedom makes you totally sucky. Jordan was never baptized either. Scott and I just came to agreed that my cousin will take Jordan if something happens.
Welcome to the dark side
Zoey Emma 08.18.10
We also plan on letting Xander decide on religion as well. I am a believer, and Andrew is an Atheists. Andrew did agree to let Xander be baptized, but he would be much happier if we didn't do it.
Alexander David
11.25.09
my blog
As for us I have no freaking clue who we would leave LO too. I suspect Nick's parents because they are fairly young and we know that LO would for the most part be raised with the same morals that we would want to raise LO. I just found out a little bit ago that I am to get my niece and nephew should anything happen. 1 because BIL's brother has a gun in their house and my Sis and BIL are not a fan, 2 because BIL's brother and wife are barely home with the one kid they do have, 3 my brother is barely capable of taking care of himself/ is mentally unstable, 4 my sister said she felt that I was most like her in my values etc.