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Well, that explains it...could be TMI, not too bad though.
This morning, I drove MH to the train because he may be going out with friends tonight and getting a ride home from one of them.
Well we were running late and he went to try to do something on his computer and I was like, come on, we have to go. So he says ok ok, shuts his computer and I asked him what was so important...he basically tells me it was about beer brewing stuff and he had a question (it's like a nest forum for beer brewing) and wanted to see the answer. Ok, fine.
Well fast forward to right now, as I am looking for a chicken salad recipe on his computer...I open firefox, and guess what I see.
A) Beer brewing site.
His email
C) Porn
You guessed it. C. Ok, now I don't care that he looks at it...I mean, he's a guy, and many guys do. And I understand I'm not as hot and sexy as I used to be, But what sucks is that as I am getting fatter and bigger, and how it makes me feel is that (even with the sex he is getting, which has been on avewrage 1x a week (which isn't fvcking bad considering I'm 29 weeks pregnant), it's not doing it for him, and that he's not attracted to me.
I have busted my ASS to stay as fit as I can (and it's not really working quite honestly, considering I've gained 32 lbs already), and the a$$ can't even trim his beard/mustache which I can't stand, yet I suck it up and still give him loving and take one for the team.
I know some of my feelings may not be rational, but I just feel like sh!t now. AND my night alone could be ruined by him coming home since his damn friends may bail on him. And I totally am calling him out on it, although I am afraid I will get really emotional. UGH. Hormones blow. Just like the porn he was watching. Pun intended.
ETA: TOTALLY WEIRD IT USED MY OLD SCREEN NAME!!! I am DD later. Stupid husbands computer.
Re: Well, that explains it...could be TMI, not too bad though.
What a dog. I'm pissed off for you, and I'd definitely bring it up. My DH is no saint, and I know guys look at porn, but still. He can't control himself? Maybe you'd be more inclined to get busy more often if he trimmed his beard once in awhile, who knows.
A friend of mine just went through a huge ordeal with her DH because he was pretty much addicted to porn and wasn't having sex with her. She has huge body issues to boot, so they went to counseling and all that. Not saying this is your scenario, but I can totally see how it gets out of hand fast. Better nip that crap in the bud now!
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Definitely!
Hope this brings out good discussion.
ITA. DH got nothing past 8 weeks.
I agree! Hon, you ARE hot, you're NOT fat, you're pregnant. He's getting laid and he's totally attracted to you AND loves you. You can't let this get to you. His looking at porn is ZERO reflection on what he thinks of you. It's an entirely separate matter.
Look, E would be jumping me every two minutes if we had time and energy for it. And yet he checks out porn A LOT. He was doing that before he met me, and I imagine he'll be doing it 'til the day he dies. It has absolutely nothing to do with our relationship or what he thinks of me or the way I look.
Same with you. The porn means NOTHING about what Justin thinks of you or your appearance. Seriously, NOTHING.
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Thanks ladies...
I spoke to him about it last night, and just explained why I was upset.
He definitely told me it had NOTHING to do with me, my appearance, etc etc... but I explained how I feel about me right now (which is probably something I needed to say to him), how I didn't care that he was looking at it, but my hormones got the best of me, and I thought it was because he thought the same way about me as I do.
I'm a bit better this morning.
Is it bad I want a virus to get on his computer now?
I agree, don't look at this as a reflection of your attractiveness. (((hugs)))
Greg is lucky if he gets to slip me tongue once a week, let alone have sex with me.
I'm not sure what Greg is doing for satisfaction, but I'm sure it probably involves porn. But that's late at night when I'm asleep or out of town. Not randomly before he goes out for the night. His timing is bizarre.
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oh jackie.
sex once a week at any time during a pregnancy is amazing.
i'm sure Erik looks at porn, its just something for them to do. which is funny because he totally hates fake boobs ( well, he likes mine, but they aren't all Heidi Montag and *** )
I'm thinking Justin didn't think that you would open his computer ? ( do you guys have his and hers ? )
I'm glad you were able to ( level headedly ) confront him.
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