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Sigh, Talk me out of this?
Bill really wants to see his parents. There's a reunion in Houston the weekend of prom so I obviously can't go. I've told him to go on without me, that I didn't need him for the prom. Now, however, I think I do want him to come. Here's what I was thinking:
Go down the weekend before the prom. Spend Saturday on our own in NOLA (even though it ranks very low on my I-want-to-go-there-again scale) since our anniversary is Monday and then spend some of Sunday with them since it's Mother's Day. My issue with this is that it's my first Mother's Day without my mom. Right now, I'm having a hard time finding a day that doesn't seem important in regards to what started almost a year ago for us. For example, our anniversary is the last day that I saw my mother before she went in the hospital. I want Bill to see his parents, I really do but I don't know which trumps the other.
Re: Sigh, Talk me out of this?
Honestly, if it were me I would tell him to go the weekend of prom and then spend the anniversary weekend/mother's day weekend by yourselves.
I lost my dad a few years ago and the first Father's Day was pretty hard. I don't think it will be a good idea for you to be with someone who can't stand you on a day when you will likely be feeling very low.
I agree with this totally. There is no need for the extra stress that weekend.
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I agree with others. Just let him go.
From what you have told us in the past, visiting them would not be a pleasant experience and I don't think that you need to add frustration into an already emotional time.
IL drama stinks. I think the negatives of him not being here to go with you to Prom are outweighed by the positives of him seeing his family and you not spending a special day with people you don't like.
TN G2G @ Julie's prom so she doesn't have to go alone?!? Lol.
All right, thank you. I knew what I should do, I knew what I wanted (my cake and eat it too). I didn't go at Christmas, because they kept screwing around on what they wanted to do and I finally told Bill that I was going to NYC with MOH since they wouldn't get their butts in gear. So they haven't seen me in a while. Do I care? Not really, but I think they'll start talking soon. Ugh.
I did already work out Christmas with Bill for this year. We're going to have an early lunch with my family on Christmas Day and then fly out that afternoon to do dinner with them. We'll spend two days there. In a hotel. With our own car. I've already negotiated this and there will be payment if my demands aren't met.
May I suggest something? Take care of these items before you even spill the beans to the IL's and also make them non-refundable (or I guess you could not do this and just say it is not refundable [whether to Bill or the IL's, your call]) and check in to the hotel before you even go to their house and leave your bags there. "We'll figure these things out when we get there", does not fly because it leaves too many gaps open. These are things I have learned the hard way so I thought I would share.
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Just do it!
This will be what we do. In fact, they pretty much refused to drive to NO to pick us up last time because it's too far. It was more expensive and we had to fly American Eagle (not a fan). Do you know how long we were in the car from the BR airport to the house? About 35 minutes. We were in the car for 40 minutes to get to NO's airport.