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Sitter ?
So, all the kids at our babysitters call her Mom. I told her several months ago that I have a big problem with that. She is not their mom, she is Miss Holly and that I do not want A calling her mom and that when she does call her mom, she needs to correct her and tell her she is Miss Holly. She tells me oh, all the kids do it and no one has a problem with it and I said, well I have a problem with it and I don't understand why the other mothers don't. A was getting better with calling Daddy, Daddy and then started calling everyone Mom again and saying mom for everything she wanted. I drop her off at the sitter today and the 5 yr old that is there is yelling Mom, Mom, Mom, Mom, Mom, as I am talking to Miss Holly. So, I say why is he calling you Mom? She says oh, they call do and her kids did that too (well DUH!) and I said he is more then old enough to know the difference between you and his mother and there is no reason he should call you mom. So, now I know why we can't seem to break A of calling everyone/everything mom. I feel bad for A because all day long, she learns other people are mom and then at home she is corrected and told that isn't mommy, that is daddy.
I'm rather upset about this (along with some other things. ~ example, the other day I picked A up early and found her in a PnP, now that sitter was in the room and other kid's parent was there and so were the sitters 2 teenage daughter, so why does A need to be in the pnp) Sorry this is so long, I guess I just needed to vent!
Would this upset you? Have you had this problem?
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Thanks girls. I feel better about being upset now :-) What do you guys think about toys? One day when I dropped A off she started to play with a big car when I was talking to the sitter. Another kid comes (she is 3yrs) and took the toy from A. A got upset and wanted it back and the sitter gave A something else and then A was ok. The sitter didn't say anything to the kid who took the toy, so me being me, lol, said honey, you can't take toys from other kids if they are playing with him, it isn't nice and the kid just looked at me of course.. lol. I was tempted to take the car away from her. I know young kids don't understand everything, but how will they learn if you don't tell them and explain things. Am I expecting too much from our sitter?
Yeah that would bug me. My grandma watched me when I was a baby and apparently I started calling her "Mom" on my own, and they gradually changed it over to "Non" because nobody was comfortable with it.
Our old sitter was "Kiki" to the kids and her mom that lived there too was "Nana" which I thought was a little strange as my kids already have a Nana, but I went with it. Wasn't near as strange as MOM. No way!
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I would have said/done the same thing. I've actually dont that before at Kids Klub at the gym. B2 got really upset b/c at the time he didnt understand sharing.
Was the sitter not going to say anything? Did she see it happen? How many kids does she have during the day? I get that it's not her responsibilit to teach right from wrong and how to share, it should be the parent, but she should at least enforce guideline/rules for the children.
That would bug me too. I would have done the same.
No, the only thing she did was pick A up and get a different toy, she never addressed the other kid at all (so I did). She has between 5-7 kids. She has added 2 kids since we started there. 1 is 5, 3 are 3, A is 18mths and the 2 she added are 2 and 18mths. I think it is waaay too many young ones and we decided we were going to take A to an actual daycare, but our Dr. asked us to wait until Spring, due to the chance of getting more colds at a daycare. So, we have waited, but I don't think we can wait any longer. Part of me wants to stay on good terms with her so that if there is some rare event that are in a bind (i.e. the daycare closes due to snow or something) we could take A to her for a day because we have no one around to help us and I can work from home and DH only has 10 mins to drive to work, so we always make it on snow days but, I kind of want to tell her what the problems were and i'm sure if I do that, she won't want to have anything to do with us. DH is off Friday and I just might have to take the day so we can go look for a new daycare.
I think that is a good plan!!
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This! Our friends' kids call us uncle Matt and aunt Ari, never ever mom or dad, and we're really close. There's only one mom and dad when they are kids. I've had kids at school slip up and say "mom" and they either realize their mistake and correct themselves or I say "I'm Mrs. H, what can I do for you?" And with the other issue, she should definitely be teaching the kids to share and take turns. How else are they supposed to learn those important skills if she's just avoiding conflict and taking the easy way out? I'd definitely start looking for a different place to take her. You have absolutely every reason to be upset.
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I agree. The calling her mom is just odd. Why would she even want them to call her that? And just for the record I hate the whole "Miss _________" IDK why that just drives me nuts. I'm fine w/ being called Kelly.
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I agree, the Miss __firstname__ annoys me a bit too... I think if you are using Miss/Mrs then you should use last name, not first.