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Headed to the sex toy store!
I?m not really around this board ever, I?m more of a blogger, but I thought you girls would probably be the right people to ask about this.
My husband and I have been together for almost 10 years now and I think we need to spice things up a little. It seems we?ve fallen into a routine of fairly standard sex for the most part, in other words boring. He and I have discussed spicing things up a little and I am just looking for suggestions of things to do to ease ourselves into something a little raunchier.
We do have vibrators, but only occasionally use them during sex. I use them mostly on my own.
So where do we start, Handcuffs?.outfits? I truly don?t know where to start with this and kinda think if I got handcuffs and like handcuffed myself to the bed I would just laugh. I know we?re both willing to take sex to a different level I just don?t even know where to begin.
TIA
Re: Headed to the sex toy store!
Now this is my kind of post haha. Tmi here we go!
We like to try anything once! That being said....one of our fav things is this vibrating *** ring. It's called a Screaming O, they are disposable but you can wash and re-use and it's just fine! I get the one that has the thin gelly part(some are reallllly thick but we don't like them). We also love handcuffs, we have under the bed restraints....they are so fun, they cuff your legs and hands...rawr! haha. Anyways we also have a little vibrator for my bum, we tried anal but both didn't like it. The idea was hot but not the process...for us anyways. So we have a smaller(in diamater) vib that we put in my bum and we have sex doggy style, it is great! Hub feels the vibs and its amazing. They have chiese silk rope cuffs that are great! ummm.....blind-folds, flavored lubes (do NOT get any flavored whipped cream or bath foam its GROSS!). I love KY his and hers, its awsome. We only use the hers though, it makes your lady parts cold and tingle, may not sound nice but its amazing! hope this helped! Ohhh maybe text him dirty stuff while he's at work that's hot too!
The Rowdy Roberts
hehe my FI loves being choked too
you might want to try listening to violet blues podcast she gives some excellent advice and educational lectures her podcast is free on itunes it is called open source sex
my H and i spice things up with the occasional threesome (though we haven't had one since i was 8 months pregnant with our first) even just seeing each other hit on other women can be exciting
toys have always seemed like an empty gesture to me
I might be able to help.
I love to experiment. My wife, well, she doesn't. But, about bringing up sexy/kinky things to do to each other. Just do it. Be blunt about it. "Hey honey, I read about this thing today and I want to try it. Interested?" Yeah, it might be slightly embarrassing, but, so what. He is your hubby!! You should be able to do or say anything to him without consequence.
I'll give you something to try. The next time you are giving him a BJ, take you mouth off his *** and use your hand to give him a HJ. While doing this, suck and lick his nuts for a few minutes. Then, once he is all happy, slide down and lick his ass!! Yes, lick his ass. Rim him good too and get him really wet because you are going to need that wetness to work a finger in his ass so you can massage his prostate! He will love you for this!!! When/if he objects, tell him to stop whining and enjoy what you are doing. Also, remind him to relax too. It will feel good to him if he is relaxed. If he tenses up, you will never be able to get your finger in there. Resume the BJ and work your finger in his ass. The prostate will feel like a small ball like thingy and it will be toward his ***. He will let you know when you find it. Work it while sucking him and he will quickly ***!!
After you explain what you want/are going to do to him, tell him that only you and he will know about it and that it won't make him gay or anything!! It'll be a fun secrete to have
Try it and let us know how it went.
I'll be waiting!!
Host a Pure Romance party! They are SO much fun and they have so many good ideas!
I would say if you are comfortable using vibrators on your own, incorporate them in with your partner too! The Jelly Tool Belt is a C-Ring is one of Pure Romance's and it has an amazing vibrator for you too!
It sounds like you're looking for more foreplay products, so from their line I would really recommend trying the Tickle & Whip and Dust Me Pink. With the Dust Me Pink (Edible Body Powder) you can make trails or tell him you dusted 5 spots on your body and only dust 3 so he's left searching and searching
I'll be honest, I would not recommend getting lingerie from Pure Romance because they have a horrible return policy if you end up ordering the wrong size (obviously they'll replace something if there's actually something wrong with it though!)
This. I am a Pure Romance consultant too so of course I agree and it definitely helped me and DH
Hi Tia,
One thing you should definitely try is the we-vibe. It is a curved vibrator that you can both take advantage of. It is made to fit inside you and stay there during sex. I love it and it has been the best purchase for the bedroom we've made.
The other part your imaginations and acceptance of one another will be your best bet. Talk about fantasies together and dont be too critical about them. Be honest about what your boundaries are, where you are willing to go and where you arent. Be ready for some failed experiments and you can both laugh about them later.