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LONG but I need advice!

I have 2 weeks left in my work assignment in the Philippines and today I was offered to extend for another 4 weeks. Talking to DH has been no help since he stands behind me 100% no matter what decision I make.

I am having a really hard time making a decision but I have to give an answer when I get in tomorrow.

Here's why I can't make up my mind: I am a trainer and training is completed, I have been providing support and mini-training sessions to the agents to ensure they are fully capable of doing this on their own (this is not unusual).

Their numbers are not that great in respect to sales and other metrics, actually they are performing at 25% of what they should be and of what they are capable of doing.

I have provided them with the tools and the knowledge to excel at this job but they just aren't applying themselves. I have done everything I possibly can besides doing their jobs for them.

I understand that being here would be beneficial to them in the sense that I can still help them out but at this point I am not sure that it's going to make a difference. I feel like they are wasting my time, I am both physically and emotionally exhausted and the extra stress is getting to me. I know that when I go home, regardless of when, I am being transferred back to my original program to continue there as I am basically on "loan" to the program I'm with now.

So... if you made it this far (sorry!) what would you do if you were in my shoes? Stay the extra 4 weeks and hope that things turn around or give up and go home?

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Re: LONG but I need advice!

  • I would go home.  If you honestly feel that you being there really won't turn things down tremendously due to their inability to apply themselves then I wouldn't waste anymore time and wouldn't risk the stress and such.  Get back to your hubby and normal life.
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  • Is the compensation worth it for you to stay?  If you aren't compensated handsomely then I would not stay.  I spent several years as a trainer, opening new stores for my company.  When I had situations like yours, where the people I was training were not applying themselves and fulfilling their potential, then it was incredibly frustrating.  It seems that spending extra time there would only increase your frustration.  You can't do it for them.  You can't want it enough to make up for what they aren't willing to do.  Get home to your husband and know that you made the biggest impact that you could.
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  • imageerindworley:
    Is the compensation worth it for you to stay?  If you aren't compensated handsomely then I would not stay.  I spent several years as a trainer, opening new stores for my company.  When I had situations like yours, where the people I was training were not applying themselves and fulfilling their potential, then it was incredibly frustrating.  It seems that spending extra time there would only increase your frustration.  You can't do it for them.  You can't want it enough to make up for what they aren't willing to do.  Get home to your husband and know that you made the biggest impact that you could.

     

    Well there really is no real compensation, I am staying in staff housing which, in the Philippines isn't saying much and I get a monthly allowance to cover my food and laundry. My commission rate has been the same for the last 3 years  and there's no chance for a change there for quite some time.

    I'm just afraid that if I say no and go home that it will somehow be held against me.


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  • imagejoljus:

    I'm just afraid that if I say no and go home that it will somehow be held against me.

     

    How can they though?  You've already given up a significant amount of time, especially considering that you are just recently married. You've invested your time and done your best to help them.  At some point they've got to put on their big girl panties and do what they need to do.  And an extra 2 weeks with you is not likely to make that happen.

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  • If there's no additional compensation or reward to your staying, other than maybe to attempt to get these employees butts in gear, I wouldn't stay.  If you do leave and the employees continue to fail, do you think that management would realize it's the employees lack of applying themselves, vs. seeing your training as a failure (which I know it isn't)
  • I would leave and go home.  You went there and did your job, like you said, there isn?t a whole lot else you can do for these people.  Especially if you aren?t getting extra pay for it?no way jose.  Your employer shouldn?t hold it against you.  You?ve already been gone longer than most people would even consider, so you?ve got that working in your favor if they give you any trouble.

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  • I wouldn't stay.  But maybe you can offer to do some additional training sessions while you're still there for the next couple of weeks instead. While they shouldn't hold your decision against you, the offer may help them be less p*ssy about it.
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  • I'd do some research on the cultural difference in the Philippines to see if you can find a better way to motivate them in the last couple weeks you are there.  At the end of the day go home when you were originally scheduled too, especially if they don't make it worth your while.
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