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deja vu all over again with SIL...
I don't know, perhaps it is just me, I'm pretty introverted after all but thought I would run this by others.
Well it is my SIL's 21st birthday coming up. Fine, okay you say to yourself...but then there is the factor that she insists on celebrating her birthday numerous times that seems to irk me or annoy me...I don't even know the correct word for it.
First, in March I got a text saying she is going to have a celebration at the end of this month(April), with more details to follow, THEN I get a call and voicemail that this past weekend she is doing an early birthday for herself and having everyone come do pedicures with her, then I get an update for the end of this month's party for her and the details involve going up to gamble and drink (because it's her 21st) at some nearby casinos....then oh by the way she has arranged celebrating her birthday with the FAMILY the next day.
well here is the deja vu part...we went through this series of parties last year this time when she was about to get married....she held three different bridal showers on top of her bachelorette party...and invited all the same people to EVERY SINGLE ONE. not to mention around this time last year was of course her 20th birthday so of course we were obligated to celebrate that too.
I guess I just don't get it, yes she is going to be 21 ...as in still young...and yes I have the power to say "no" as I did not attend this past weekends pedicure thing (hate people touching my feet), and will not be going to gamble and drink at the end of the month... but honestly is it just me or is this just ....ridiculous!?
Re: deja vu all over again with SIL...
IMO it is rediculous, but as long as you say no don't let it bother you. If she gives you a hard time, just tell her that her birthday falls at a busy time and you can only dedicate one day (evening / afternoon) for her birthday celebration.
Just FYI - - I know it bugs you, but there are women on this board who would LOVE to get an invite to their SILs birthday!
I know several people like this, and they're older than 21. It happens. Maybe she will grow out of it, maybe she won't. If you feel like celebrating with her, go to one party, wish her well, and make up excuses for the other events.
And like PP said, at least you have a nice-enough relationship with her where she's inviting you to spend time with her. That's better than her being nasty to you, right?
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I think it's something your sis will grow out of. People that are turning 21 are happy that they are now legally "allowed" to go and party. Let her have her fun and in a few years she'll want to stop counting her birthdays.
In the meantime, like other posters already said, you can always say no to the numerous events. But I wouldn't let her know that it bothers you, that'll make her feel bad. And she doesn't need that on her birthday.
I'm not big on celebrating my own birthday but all of my girlfriends, my sister and my bofriend's brother's girlfriend (that was a mouthful) have week long or month long celebrations every single year! I think it's silly but I enjoy visiting with everyone. If I can't make it to all of their planned parties/ dinners/ events I really don't feel bad because they realize its over the top (at least I think they do).
But to answer your question.. Yes, it's ridiculous (and silly and fun). So don't take it too seriously and just have fun!
My SIL celebrated her birthday three times this year and she's forty! First it was her real date, then it was the "average" of her birthday and her husband's (he's a few months younger than her and it was his fortieth too) and then her husband's alone, onto which she piggybacked. DH and I went to the "average"/shared one for about ten minutes just to "check in" as we'd already brought a cake (I decorate cakes) to her real one. It was a tad ridiculous, but some people just thrive off being the center of attention... not a lot we could do about it. Just joined in when we wanted and ignored the rest.
That's my best advice.