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Guardian update
I just wanted to give everyone a quick update on what went down yesterday. Seeing the lawyer we use is a family friend, it was very informal and laid back. It was chatting "business" for a few minutes and then chatting family and what not and back and forth.
I posed the question "what do you suggest in scenarios where we just can't decide/agree?" Like I said yesterday, neither of us could come up with any reason as to why we would not want the other person as guardian, we both just felt like our sibling was better.
So in the end, they both made it. He said that it happens all the time and they write in different clauses where my sister would be under my name and his brother would be under his name. There are some details to work out around it, but everyone is happy.
Thank you for being a sounding board and giving me advice yesterday!
Re: Guardian update
Our lawyer said it happens all the time where they decision cant be agreed upon. He went through all of the questions to make sure each one was a good person, and asked why we couldn't agree etc and he said it all made sense to him.
Plus, it's all short term until we get more assets and need to add to it.
Was following this post because I really need to do the same thing ....
But I'm kind of confused how you have both guardian choices listed. What happens if you guys pass away tomorrow? Cage match to see who gets the kids?
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This... I'm surprised your lawyer let it go like that. I see how it's possible - each of your wills will dictate the other spouse first, and then the brother/sister in the event the spouse isn't there anymore. But if you don't both have the same person listed, if you passed away at the same time, some court will have to decide which will to honor. If you're ok with it being up to the courts to decide - that's fine - otherwise, you'll have to list the same person.
We actually had this discussion too. (DH and I) and because we had the same issue, we went with friends instead. Our family doesn't 'know' and I know that's kind of evil but really, I don't want them "having a cage match" over the kids and our friends are neutral enough to keep it even between the family. Plus it's unlikely that something would happen, so HOPEFULLY it'll never ever come up.
As a side note, I just found out my parents left me EVERYTHING in their will and literally nothing to my siblings (the house, cars, money everything is 'mine') but if something happens to them, I'm obviously going to split the estate with my siblings.
It was a bit hard to understand, but the quickest way to explain it...
Whoever outlives the other person. So if I outlive him by 5 minutes, it would go to my pick and vice versa.
We had been joking that we would need to flip a coin to make the decision on one, and now we say that God will flip the coin.
I know there are many more details that than, but that was the quickest way to explain. Both people are aware of why we went with the decision , etc.